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Desperate help advice on what to do

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Cccsss011 · 04/11/2019 08:01

I've posted before my partner has been moved twice in his job to new depots as he argues doesn't get on with people he recently decided a guy was having a pop as he calls it at him and decided to raise a grievance his manager moved him to another depot I really believe it's my partners attitude issues and I have told him this hes very childish struggles to hold down a full time job we finally got him one hes been there 5 years he works outside and it suits him he never manages factory care or retail work unskilled man no qualifications not even basics tbh we have no kids but we couldn't survive on my min wage job only .He rings me up after sulking all weekend and arrives at work I'm having depression and anxiety and I need to come home it's just excuse after excuse as he works for council he has time off paid and yearly goes off 6 to 12 weeks with depression yet can manage to goout watch tv do all usual things whilst at home it's like one big holiday even his mums had enough of him hesc45 and they are sick of his nit been able to hold a job down I work in care night shifts to provide for us and I hate it but you do it to eat pay your way in life I'm only staying as I'd have to move in with my mum otherwise loseing my independence and my beloved dog.....shes made it quite clear shes not welcome I'm at my wits end I've told him today to man the hell up and if he comes home or gets sacked I'm gone am I been too harsh I think it's only way to get him to keep his job...fyi hes a litter picker no pressure to be quick finishes at 330pm and works weekdays gets sick pay and doesn't know he is born on alot more than mon wage also helllp

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gamerchick · 04/11/2019 08:43

With what? You've issued the ultimatum, now you have to stick to it.

If he has depression and anxiety then he needs to visit the GP and get on that.

Cccsss011 · 04/11/2019 15:27

I know think it was his plan not to stay at work as he never took a packed lunch...this man never misses food hes just not grateful to have a job and I need him to man up get on and earn a living like most people I gave him the ultimatum and if he leaves his job I'm gone it's hard as I will lose my home I cannot afford to rent it on one wage and its took me years to build the contents I'm so angry right now he did stay at work so maybe my words have sunk in just hope I'm not in for a hell of a evening any advice appreciated

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