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It's official, I have no friends

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MandKsMam · 13/10/2019 12:42

Yesterday was my birthday. My partner so kindly , and surprisingly, organised a birthday get together at home for me. He tagged me in a post on Facebook asking for some friends to come along. I've not been on Facebook for a month so didn't see it. I still haven't. No friends came which doesn't surprise me at all. If I was dead, 'friends' would have no idea cos I don't see anyone. However the few family members who did turn up really surprised me as I wasn't expecting it.

When it finished my partner was clearly gutted that no friends came. I said I was surprised that it even occured at all and was so thankful at the effort he went to to organise it. I cried because I wasn't doing anything for my birthday.

Now today my already feelings of loneliness and isolation and not being cared about have been made worse from yesterday. I couldn't even get any family help when I haemorrhaged twice when my baby was 1 week and 2 weeks old so I go to hospital as advised by a hospital midwife. I felt so let down, I wanted to haemorrhage to death or at least pass out and need a blood transfusion. I still hold anger about it now. So if I can't get support in times of crisis then it's no surprise really that that happened yesterday.

It has made me feel suicidal. I've just started DBT and I'm supposed to splash cold water on my face when feeling like this but I feel like it's hiding the problem. I'd rather tackle it by some sort of selfharm or overdose to prove that no-one cares and hardly anyone would come to my funeral.

I don't know what I want from this post. Maybe just someone to talk to. I hate burdening my partner all the time when I feel like this.

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MarmiteOrGoHome · 13/10/2019 18:23

You have a partner who obviously cares about you.

You want good friends, are you doing anything that will facilitate you making some new friends?
(I understand you might not be able to do that given how you're feeling).

I hope you manage to get through these feelings.

PurpleFrames · 13/10/2019 19:31

Do you have an out of hours mental health team? Even the Samaritans can be quite good if you need to unload.

What support do you have long term?

What do you want to prove by overdosing?

TheoriginalLEM · 13/10/2019 19:38

Your partner cares about you. What a lovely thing for him to do. I am so sorry it backfired like this. I can see why you are upset.

I don't have an't friends, not really. I have work colleagues and friends from old jobs on Facebook but otherwise we wouldn't keep in touch.

I actually prefer it that way. But my dp knows better than to organise surprise get togethers as he would be the only one I want there.

You must be kind to yourself and maybe see if you and he can do something nice just the two of you.

Everyone else can get fucked

Lemonchorizo · 13/10/2019 19:47

Your partner cares and it was such a nice idea to put that get together for you.

I am sorry for how you are feeling. I really hope you get through these feelings and speak to someone as pp said x

It sounds like you have a lovely family unit. You are the baby's favourite and you partner seems lovely.

MonkeyToesOfDoom · 13/10/2019 19:54

I think that if you want friends you need to get out there and make them. Do you do clubs? Hobbies? Go to church? Etc.

It's great you have a fab partner tho so that should make you happy.

barnun · 13/10/2019 19:59

He tagged me in a post on Facebook asking for some friends to come along

If it was just a post, facebook’s algorithm means that most of them didn’t even see it.

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