What meds to do you take for your anger/emotional dysregulation?

[SongLark12]

I have had a psychiatric assessment today which have told me I'm suffering from the above, not bpd as I first thought.

She has suggested I do cbt and anger management and also talk to my GP about meds change. I'm currently taking 15mg mirtazipine and have also tried it at a higher dose with no difference. She has told me I'm not clinically depressed.

I have bad anxiety, control issues/ocd, anger outbursts and constantly feeling up and down.

Please tell me your stories on what you take. I'm looking more to fluoxetine when I see GP Monday.

Thanks

Anyone?

I've tried lots of medications but found they don't help. I have tried low carb and cutting out sugar, but it just made me miserable. I have tried giving up caffeine (more misery). I have found counselling very helpful, especially when it focused on specific issues such as anger management or self harm (the latter which is no longer something I do at all), and just generally to have somebody to talk things through with. Hormones don't help, nor does stress, but neither of those are going to disappear anytime soon. So I try to find outlets. If I am angry or upset about something specific, instead of stewing on it, I tell the person and try to come to a better outcome. I try to find ways to nurture myself physically, spiritually, creatively, emotionally and try to use coping strategies and things I've learnt in CBT. And sometimes I flip my lid over something little, and have to go apologise for acting like a big baby. But that is good for me too, because then I resolve it I don't stew on it and use it as an excuse to be miserable. I listen to uplifting music and pod casts, and sometimes I do things I never thought I would like getting on my knees and praying for the strength to get through the next five minutes, or for guidance, or a good nights sleep. And I try to be patient, because no matter how big or bad the feeling it will pass. I read something about "feelings being like clouds" and that stuck with me. So I watch the clouds pass, and I just try to keep putting one foot in front of the other and making small improvements. Sometimes I tell myself "if you still want to fuck it all off in five minutes, crack on, but have a cup of tea/finish doing the dishes/ go brush your hair first." And guess what? Most times that little bit of time passes and I can't even remember why I wanted to fuck it all off.

I also write people really long letters, telling them all the things I feel and how angry/upset/hurt I am at their words/actions etc. and then I don't send them. These days I even save paper by writing them in email and just deleting the draft! It feels like I've had a really good vent, but it harms nobody. It just clears the crap out, and often afterwards I can see much more clearly what the next right thing to do is. I also go have a "silent scream," go for a really long walk (works best when it's raining for a touch of added melodrama) or if all else fails, have a good fecking cry.

Isn’t emotional disregulation disordering alternative name for bpd? Not trying to be unhelpful but if so could you try dbt?

@zsazsajuju

Emotional dysregulation is a symptom of lots of other conditions eg. ADHD, BPD and complex PTSD. Emotion dysregulation disorder can also be a stand alone diagnosis.

@CileyMayRhinovirus that's really helpful thank you for sharing that with me. I'm really going to work hard to start implementing things. The thing i struggle with most is if something is said or done that I don't like, I can't find a way to get rid of it and stop it winding me up. And also sometimes I react without thinking which I really hate.