Cant cope everything is to much

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Everything is a mess I have so much going on, I have a police case with the police about something from whe I was a child and none of my family or friends will support me. My grandad is in hospital after a chest drain but thankfully he is doing well. I have a leak in my roof which isn't being fixed till the 12th november. My care co is leaving and 2 of my carers are pregnant. There is to much to deal with and I dont know what to do about any of it I want to make it stop and it feels like there is only one way to do I'm trying my best but I cant do it anymore it's to much to deal with and I just keep being told to distract myself and that things happen i cant cope

I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, it sounds like you've a lot on your plate! It's great that your granddad is doing well, are you able to visit him?

Hey. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. You sound incredibly stressed.

Have you got a new care coordinator in place? Have you met them yet?

It sounds impossible but maybe try breaking things up into boxes. Even wring them down and drawing boxes round each thing can help break it all up and enable you to deal with one thing at a time?

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Just try and take one minute at a time. You clearly need some help don’t be frightened to ask for it. Firstly see your GP. Remember nothing last for ever. What ever is going on with the police it can’t be that bad if you were a child.
Your family will come rally round but you need to let them know how bad you are feeling.

The police thing is something that happened to me. I went to my gp today they just got the crisis team to ring me who were useless. I have written everything out I have tried to deal with one thing at a time and its just not helping.

Not able to visit my grandad unfortunately my grandma doesn't want me to see him with wires and everything shes worried about it upsetting me

Hello. You sound completely snowed under. I think I can relate a little bit.

Please keep on keeping on. Baby steps and all that bollocks.

I’m not very good at life. It mostly feels like I’m trying to polish a turd 💩. I get very little done, and find everything incredibly stressful.

I come from a batshit family who do not treat me well.

Was the childhood thing something you did or something that happened to you?

Sending hugs ok. Tell us more. 💐

I'm getting a new care coordinator and meeting her on monday but she will be my 5th in 3 and a half years and my third this year so struggling to see the point I dont want to have to deal with all this with someone new and dont see the point in getting to k ow someone else when they all leave or move me on to someone else

Oops sorry, crosspost.

NHS help can be so frustrating. I had two mental health type appointments cancelled in the last week or so! Made me feel very paranoid and abandoned.

Do you live alone? Do you have friends?

I hear you. I get sick to death of telling yet another healthcare professional my boring life story!

My favourite doctors are forever buggering off to have babies, then I end up having to see male doctors who can be unbelievably patronising. Argh.

What kind of care do you need?

I live alone and I do but try not to put to much on them spoke to 1 tonight for a couple of hours and another hasn't been very supportive about the stuff going on people just seem to be pretending that some of it isn't happening for example to police so I feel so alone with it everyone keeps telling me everything will be fine but they dont know that it keeps feeling like nothing else can happen and then it does. I feel so low and suicidal I dont know how to cope with it all.

I am so happy for my carers dont get me wrong but I also know my favourite one is also trying for a baby and that would be amazing for her as I know how much she wants it, just struggling with losing everyone I keep being told its life and I do get that but I struggle with change due to my past and it doesn't make it any easier for me. I feel so stupid to be feeling this way due to professional people leaving it going on maternity especially that as my carers aren't leaving till February/march next year

That sounds really tough.

It is not helpful to be told “it’s life”.

Can you give the Samaritans a call? 116123.

I often feel like life is not worth living. I’m still here though, and I’m glad you are.

Is there anything nice you’d be able to do for yourself?

I have tried the samaritans in the past and dont them the most helpful unfortunately and currently watching netflix and trying to relax in bed but keep just crying, want to go for a walk but I know that in this state it wouldn't be safe so trying to stay at home although that comes with it's own challenges it seems that whatever I do it's wrong.

Which film are you watching on Netflix?

I'm not at all an expert but I'd stay all comfy in bed watching TV. 😁 Thinking of you and it's ok to feel that way about change, it's really unnerving but take each day as it comes.

Watching gilmore girls I love it and I have been trying to do that but every day things get worse.

Crying is good, let it all out.

Thank dog for Netflix. I enjoyed Gilmore Girls.

Stranger Things is excellent, especially for Halloween season.