My daughter wants to die to set me free

[AnjaScheyer]

I don’t know how to start. She was abused and can’t find peace. She has developed Agoraphobia, hiding away from the world, to the point where she is now in such poor physical health, that she can’t climb the stairs anymore to leave our flat.

It’s been years since she went outside and is deteriorating day by day. She can’t go to the dentist or go to see her Mental Health Professional!

The council won’t help me rehouse her, since she is a “young Adult” and can fend for herself. Which she can’t.
I’m her Carer, can’t leave her for too long and she feels guilty about that.

I don’t know how to help her get out of the flat ... she is dying everyday a bit more

If there is anyone with advice, please help her

Can you contact the crisis team and ask for someone to visit her, if she can't leave the house? It sounds so tough,

I would call for an ambulance to take her to the hospital.

OP, what a sad story, I don't really know what to suggest, you've probably tried everything. One practical thing would be to make sure her vitamin D levels are good, they are probably very low if she never goes out and that can weaken people physically and mentally. Has anyone tried EMDR therapy, it can be effective for trauma and PTSD.
I have a 21 year old struggling with MH, stuck at home so I have some idea of what your going through, to a lesser degree, I am careful to always talk of his situation as not permanent, difficult sometimes as it can be very frustrating.
Will a community pychiatric nurse not visit at home?

I think you need to speak to the crisis team. If that was my child I would be pushing for a stay in psychiatric hospital either voluntarily or through her being "sectioned" under the mental health act.

Can your GP intervene? I know in my area all CPNs do home visits, but in other areas you need to go and see them.

She would get points bumping her up the housing queue due to her mental health and your living condition. Contact a local housing charity for advice.

www.rethink.org/advice-and-information/living-with-mental-illness/treatment-and-support/crisis-teams/

Has she been referred to the home treatment team? they can visit up to three times a day and generally have psychiatrists that do home visits.

there are people who can come to the house.therapist deff do this.has this been talked about being an option.
is she wanting to get well or is she too hopeless.(i understand she must yearn to be better but i hope you know what i mean by this)
is anyone trying to help.
have you tried anything before
sorry for all the questions.i dont want to shove advice down your throat if youve tried it all.
is there anything you can try at home.anything she might enjoy to bring moments of release even if its at home.
sorry i hate to dig or ask but really need a bit more info if that possible for you.
i know its really hard.she must be hurting so bad.and you too.
if there is anything we can do many of us here will do ok.
dont give up.please dont give up.it can seem utterly desparing.like there is no end to this pain in sight.but its not the end so there can be light.there can be light to come for you both