Any therapists around? Question about supervision

[imnotarunnerivetried]

If a long term client cancelled their last session and didn't re-book would a supervisor encourage a therapist to get in touch? (I know my case was discussed in supervision)

Many thanks in advance!

Curious to understand why you would need to ask your question. Has something gone wrong in your relationship with your therapist? Reading between the lines, it feels a bit like you're testing the relationship. I wonder why you might need to discover the impact of your cancellation and decision not to rebook on your therapist's use of supervision.

Are you managing ok OP?

Thanks for the reply, your exactly right I suppose I am testing him, not thought of that, I felt like he massively judged me so I cancelled my next session (two weeks ago now) and not heard anything from him, just wondering if he really cared I suppose?

I'm not a therapist but I've been in therapy for almost 3 years now (BPD and trauma). My therapist also has his own supervisor- but when I used to skip sessions he would always email.I don't think there's a set rule. Most therapists do actually care about their clients care, I think he's just respecting your choice to leave.

In my experience you'd have heard from him by now. And yes, it's something he would be likely to explore in supervision, even if only briefly. However, he may not have weekly supervision. It might be fortnightly, or even monthly, so perhaps he hasn't had an opportunity to discuss your cancellation and decision not to re-book yet. On the other hand, many therapists would contact you as a matter of course. It's not something they would need to get feedback from a supervisor on, in the first instance.

That said, it might be useful for you to have a think about what you'd like in a communication from him, and reflect on what that could reveal about past significant relationships that have somehow been ruptured. Is it possible that you've felt judged by others before around the same or a similar issue?

Thanks both for taking the time to reply. It's been a bit of a rocky relationship for a while so I'm just wondering if he's relieved I've gone! Will definately have a think about this and past relationships though, that's really interesting, thank you

@imnotarunnerivetried how are things now, a month later?

I'm a therapist, yes I'd follow up if a long term client didn't rebook, testing/resistance /relationship rupture/transference are all important to explore

Thanks for asking swim, been quite tough, not heard anything from him and I haven't contacted him. The last thing he said to me was that the way I said something was 'not nice' so I figured I'm better off out of there?

Thanks Harriet, you sound like a better one than mine!