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Danger to my kids

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Vagessence · 16/09/2019 21:49

I am undergoing online text based therapy. Prior to my last session I had a rare argument with my partner (lasted around 30 seconds, 2nd heated argument in our 7 year relationship). I took myself to a different room from my partner and children and banged my head against the wall as this has previously helped me dissipate my anger quicker (1st time doing this throughout the entire duration of our relationship, I'm aware it's not the healthiest method hence me being in therapy). I also had thoughts of jumping from the balcony but would never have gone through with it, one of my issues are intrusive thoughts that I have no desire to act upon.

I shared all of the above with my therapist and she has referred me, against my wishes, to the child safeguarding team. The anger from my argument passed quickly but my depression and anxiety have increased 10 fold as a result of her referral. I have explained to her my suicidal thoughts are not something I have a desire to act upon and that in all of my mental health problems I always ensure my children are kept far far away from being affected.

Not only do I no longer trust that she is the right person to help me through my struggles, I do not feel comfortable enough sharing my darkest thoughts with any therapist meaning my chances of getting better through therapy are now drastically reduced. I feel really dissolusioned with the system as all it has done is made me feel worse.

I'm not entirely sure the point of me writing this out.. Does her referal sound justified? Why is there and automatic assumption that a parent with depression is a danger to their children? My kids are one of the few things in my life that bring me joy and I would never do anything to hurt them.

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Raphael34 · 16/09/2019 21:54

Definitely sounds Ott to me. I doubt any safeguarding team will be interested. I’d be finding a new therapist.

Lizzylozzy444 · 16/09/2019 21:55

Hello, first of all I think you are extremely brave to be so open on here. I'm afraid I don't have much advice but want to tell you that I can feel from your post that you are a lovely mum and want the best for your children. Do you have any support in RL? I'll check back on here to see how you are. In the meantime someone else will hopefully be along too to offer advice

saraclara · 16/09/2019 22:06

Online text based therapy? How can a therapist tell anything about you without being able to see your body language, your facial expression and your tone of voice?

It's no surprise that she misinterpreted you without those vital clues to your state of mind.

Vagessence · 17/09/2019 09:02

I'm greatful to have my family as my main support network but I'm keen to get better so I don't have to rely on them so much.

I'm in the process of getting face to face therapy as I do feel there are many things lacking in the online method. I've been through various therapies and antidepressants over the years and have yet to find one that works for me unfortunately.

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