Anxiety is getting too much

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I am struggling with anxiety and I feel like no one understands me what do I do? I feel as if it is getting worse and I just feel either sad or panicked every time at most times of the day. I also think it is starting to interfere with my friendships and relationship and I just need some help

Please could someone help me I have been to the doctored several times and they are not helping and saying that I should talk to a counsellor which I have already done and has not helped feeling nauseous or worried just making me feel bit better at the time

Have you tried meditation? Or guided meditations? Especially when you’re feeling highly anxious. Try downloading head space or calm app.

Do you get outside? If not then I would also suggest going for walks outside; with headphones in too and some music you enjoy.

Please also talk to anyone you feel comfortable with about how you’re feeling. Talking is the best therapy, and those who love you will always want to help you.

Whilst you wait for more counselling, if things feel like they’re spiralling I would also consider medication. Sending love x

Thankyou very much I have tried all I can when I go out with my friends I tend to feel a bit better if I am having a good time however with my family I feel very trapped, I was on holiday last week and my anxiety was the worst it has ever been I just wanted to come home I feel like after that trip I realised I neeeded help I was being sick almost every day from how anxious I was. I have told the doctors about this and they refuse to give me medication I don't know what else I can do

That’s not good enough, a gp should be there to listen & help

You can self refer online, depending your area try searching iapt for your area.
Try looking for local support groups for anxiety online
Do you a Mind, they usually have a few things going on

How old are you?

I have tried some online things I have been recommended but they have been useless and so busy no one has been able to talk to me. I am 16 I have just started college and I have been feeling like this for about 18 months now but it is just getting worse as the days go on I thought it was just a phase at first but now it's started to get me feeling very sad every day as well as anxious and sick

Hi have you looked up crisis team in your area all you have to do is tell them what is happening for you and they were brilliant with me they help you more than a GP they are specialized in that type of things

Also breathing exercises reduce stress levels with me and meditation I have the dare app on my phone also start from your toes and work upwards through your muscles contracting for 10 seconds then fully relaxing them

Thankyou very much @kitty85

Hi that's ok lexie2019 just try to remember to speak to your self like you would a Friend be kind to yourself

Hi forgot to say when you feel sick it's because your breathing to fast it happens to me to so you need do breathing exercise in slowly to the count of 4 and out to the count of 8 and it will help the sickness breathing out more than you do in is the key because it's the co2 that gets messed up and causes the sick feeling

I would speak to your doctor again. My anxiety comes in cycles where it builds, escalated and reduces again and might not become severe again for months. It sounds like you need help getting on top of the immediate situation and some long term help and methods to control it. Make an appointment and in the meantime try to stay in your comfort zone, see if you can identify things that relax you - breathing never worked for me but cleaning out a cupboard or drawer in the middle of the night while watching Friends always did the trick! Tell the people you're close to that you're struggling with it and you might behave strangely or have to remove yourself from situations - the pressure of others noticing your anxiety can add to it so I always found that explaining my behaviour takes the pressure off. If you need to take a little time off work or studying to get on top of it then do that - it's an illness like any other and can be debilitating so don't try to keep going - take some time to look after yourself. Good luck with it - it's so difficult but talk to your doctor and friends and family and be kind to yourself.

Shadow kitty what works for you may not be helpful for a young adult starting a new course normality is what helps meditation and breathing techniques because it's not always the focusing on the breath but the chemicals in the body that it normalises also she said she feels better when she's out with friends. Being able to sleep helps the body to recover. Some of the things you said is good but some of it may cause the anxiety to carry on

@kitty85 The op said they'd already tried apps and they didn't help - the usual advice around breathing techniques and counselling also didn't help me so I was offering another perspective based on my own struggle with severe anxiety, that's all.

@ShadowKitty if you read my post I did say some of the things you said was good I wasn't slating you. IE the tidying that's called a destraction technique I was saying about the science behind the breathing technique that does chemically work . I am also diagnosed as having extreme anxiety . This is not about you or me it's about the op

Thankyou very much both of you the breathing techniques do tend to calm me down as do every other distraction techniques but only whilst I am doing them and right after I will feel the same again. I am very happy to say that my doctor is beginning to take it more seriously and I have an appointment with a psychiatrist on Thursday I am quite nervous but I am hoping she could help me a lot, again thankyou both @kitty85 @ShadowKitty

Another simple breathing exercise, slowly breathe in for the count of 3, gently pause/hold for one count and then gently breathe out for the count of 4.

I find when I relax and accept my anxiety, I stop fighting against it and it tends to melt away. They're just thoughts.

Try some cardio, HIIT, moderate to intense exercise and you'll be too tired to be anxious 💐

I will thankyou a lot
@tranquillife

Hi @lexie2019 that's brilliant news you have an appointment they are so nice and really helpful I was also nervous but when I came out of the appointment I felt not so alone anymore I felt like I had spoken to people that actually understand what your talking about you can also contact them to for advice after the appointment

@kitty85 yeah I'm really happy hopefully it will go okay and they will help me I am fed up of feeling like this x

I can barley leave the house without my oh and I have to take my son to reception I can deal but every time I mention it someone shuts me down or just throw meds in my face I have been back to doctor since my new little man he arrived as well to anxious and well this year with my experience with medical people has been shocking never again it’s been awful so I put it off but I keep having panic attacks that just take over I feel like I’m failing as a mum because I can’t breathe I get up I feed them them freak out because I have to leave the house I honestly am lost right now and it hard

Haven’t been back since in my sons been born

@charre I know exactly how you feel this was me until I went on holiday for a week . I didn't have to do the same routine so I guess it broke the cycle of going out the best thing I have found is the dare app and phoning the crisis team. I'm a mum of 3 so I totally understand how your thinking because this is how I thought. We can't help the struggles we feel and I'm sure you are a brilliant mum if a friend of yours was being this harsh and critical of themselves you would say that it's not true at all and they was being way to hard on themselves so please talk to your self the same way you would if your best friend was in your situation also phone the crisis team and focus on breathing exercises this may help control the panic x

Also tell the buggers to listen to you some people are just plain rude but not everyone is . Say to them I don't feel like your listening to me x

Thank you that’s super helpful and I’m trying I have three kiddies I’m trying my best for them