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Is my Dh trying to gaslight me?

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thewickedwitchwasmisunderstood · 01/09/2019 00:04

I have a history of minor mh issues (depression and anxiety) which my Dh has been mostly supportive of. Tonight we went out for 3 hours while my dm looked after our ds at home. After 3 drinks he said I shouldn't order another but I was just on the verge of being tipsy. It is was a Saturday night and it's been so long that it seems quite reasonable that we would have few drinks. I went to the toilet and left my phone with him. One conversation was that I needed to start paying my credit card off (we got a loan in my name to pay both our debts off but have used my credit card for joint spends such as a hoover and bbq). When we returned home my mother left and straight away he had a go saying that he's just paid off £50 of my credit card bill because I was over. I missed my last bill by a day because of the way our paydays fell but not to the extent of £50. He said that my phone popped up with a message saying there was a payment overdue...the thing is, I can't find the message. There is no proof whatsoever that he found out about my overspend this way, and in all honesty, I was only over by £10 so nothing is adding up with his story. After any drink (half lager/bottle of Prosecco at a bbq) he seems to be belittling me and my ability to cope. I feel like my sanity is being questioned but I am unable to ask anyone because those close to us know my history of mental health (doctors, antidepressants). What do I do? I'm scared that he is trying to break me down to lose my ds but this could also be part of my paranoia?!! Help!

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