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Feel ridiculous

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anxietystruggles · 31/08/2019 14:58

So I’m currently sat at home incapable of leaving the house due to neighbours in their front gardens. They're doing nothing wrong just a bit of gardening however in my brain I just can’t face leaving the house to get to my car because they’re are there. I’m just getting the shakes trying to build up courage to leave my house. I’m like this with so many things it’s really effecting my life. I check the cameras to see if anyone’s outside and wait till they’ve gone to leave. The idea of just a polite hello stresses me out. I go to work no problem but general life I seriously struggle going anywhere alone. Just looking for a little advice please.

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TellySavalashairbrush · 31/08/2019 15:01

As an immediate solution,leave your house pretending to be engaged in a call on your mobile. This way a quick wave and gesture to show you’re on the phone is sufficient. In the long term, have you considered counselling? Sounds like you’re having a really tough time.

AmIThough · 31/08/2019 15:06

Is it the initial leaving your house thing, or just being out alone in general?

You're not ridiculous - I struggled for a long time.

mistermagpie · 31/08/2019 15:10

Yep, pretend to be on a call so you don't have to say hello. How are you once you are actually out?

NoBaggyPants · 31/08/2019 15:14

The phone call thing is what famous people do, you're a star in your own right. Sunglasses too, whatever the weather.

The world is blooming overwhelming at times, be kind to yourself.

anxietystruggles · 31/08/2019 15:44

As soon as I posted they went in so I quickly left. It’s gotten worse over time just going to shop in my head i just can’t bring myself to go I build up the courage over the day then go very late when not many people around. Once I’m out I’m usually ok just keep my head down. Sometimes I get very shaky but try and push past it and get myself home. It’s awful tbh I’ve not been to the doctor or anything about but then the idea of doing that fills me with anxiety.

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mollyblack · 31/08/2019 15:45

I'm like this too, I pretend do be on the phone a lot.

Fishcakey · 31/08/2019 16:48

Headphones and sunglasses or pretend to be on the phone. I am always pretending to be on the phone! Interacting with people fills me with dread some days.

anxietystruggles · 31/08/2019 18:41

Thanks for the reply’s yeah I think I’ll try the phone thing, sunglasses are pain just because I wear glasses would need to put contacts in. Sometimes I can be completely fine well rarely, but I just need to force myself out.

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