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What to do now?

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Wond3rment · 28/08/2019 21:53

I am so muddled, I am not sure where to put this thread and also don’t know what good it will do to post in the first place.

DH suffers from extreme anxiety and is particularly bad at the moment, he has also expressed some dark thoughts today about his value in the world.

Over very recent times I have become aware of a very difficult position. In brief, a business deal that has gone wrong - nothing illegal or anything.

There is a lot of money involved, £35k+. From what I can understand, the issue itself was not his doing but how he has tried to deal with it (in blind panic I would imagine) has been poor to say the least. The other party have become irate, have made some threats and mentioned involving the police. This isn’t helpful as it’s not criminal but may need to be addressed in court if the money can’t be recouped.

What am I asking? Bluntly, how to keep DH alive? Money has to be repaid. What’s the best way to do that? Personal borrowing? How do I look after myself? The extend of the details are only coming to light, I’m stressed. DH hasn’t shared all the information with him and isn’t aware of what I know at this point.

It’s fair to say this will change the course of our lives.

I just don’t know...

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KissyThief · 29/08/2019 10:41

Your post is really quite vague and it’s hard to advise. It sounds like your worried about your DHs safety so that’s why you’ve posted here.

First point of call is always your gp, explain to him that you want him to discuss what I assume are suicidal thoughts. They’ll probably refer to specialist mental health professionals.

Secondly I think you need some legal advice and to slow down with all the panic about this money. Go to the citizen advice bureau or consider personal borrowing to get a solicitor.

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