Help on getting over ex

[xxmummyt2xx]

Hi looking for advise me and my partner split in March after 11 years it's just got to much I put him out and we have tried to make it work but we get nowhere. He has been really horrible the last few weeks calling me really horrible names I'm fat useless and using my mental health against me. Now i have decided enough is enough I don't want this anymore we have set days in place for our kids I just want to be civil for there sake but I'm struggling with it all 😭 any advice appreciated thanks

Well done on setting up a schedule for the kids and trying to be civil. Sorry he is being verbally abusive. You know he is trying to hurt your feelings. And since March (5 months ago! Congrats!), it must be good not to deal with him all the time, or to try to live with him!

Are you getting some help with your mental health? Does your doctor know about your situation?

Hugs to you, you are doing so well. Honestly, you know that a line has been drawn and you can see how his behaviour is impacting upon you. You can see how he's using your MH against you. Stay firm with your boundaries. Things might get a little bit more nasty but he will get the message soon enough. You deserve to be loved and treated with respect and not gaslit. In an ideal world, he may get the wake up call he needs, I hope so... but if not, you stay really strong and you will get through this. I'm speaking from personal experience (with my ex).

Hi thank you for the replies. It took me a while to see what he was doing now I am on the right medication and getting the help and support I need I realised this was not right for anyone. Some days I get texts saying he loves me ect and when I don't reply its back to being all my fault ect I think he is realising I have had enough now and just want to do right by the kids. It just went round in circles and nothing changed I realised I am better on my own some days are harder than others and I do miss him but until he takes some responsibility for his actions I have nothing to say just been keeping the texts civil if about the kids and don't reply if he wants to talk about us. X