Has anyone here turned their life around?

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I'm kind of struggling with life st the moment. Feel permanently stressed, quite angry and also depressed. This is unlike me in the main but I've been here before so it's not completely out of the blue. I'm not on antidepressants as I don't feel I'm quite at that point yet so I want to take positive steps to improve my mindset.

I've decided I need to really get my act together. I need to quit drinking because that is the biggest downer for me (I drink about a couple of bottles of wine a week) and embrace more positive habits that will have the domino effect of improving other areas (e.g. better sleep due to exercise, better nutrition because of improved sleep etc).

Has anyone done this? How long did it take and have you managed to maintain that new way of life?

I haven’t had the experiences you have had so I’m sorry I won’t be much help in answering some of the questions you ask, but just wanted to congratulate you on realising you have a problem at the moment and being brave enough to confront it. Well done. Things can get better. When I’ve battled with difficulties and depression I found that counselling helped me greatly, as did walking round the park beside the lake (it’s safe, popular destination) and stopping eating crap. Supporting my body and mind better helped me face the causes of my mental health issues. Addressing them and making some changes made me feel much better. I have not slipped back into allowing any individual to bully me although I was nearly lured in again by a selfish boyfriend, but had the strength to dump him because of the counselling. Good luck

Two years ago my daughter was very depressed. She was in a bad marriage with a useless, narcissistic husband who is lazy and selfish who got them into lots of debt, four children, one with SEN. She works full time and takes care of everything.
She gave up smoking, started doing yoga every day, watched lots of positive self help videos online, studied mindfulness and concentrated on getting herself well.
She's lost all her excess weight, got a new much better job and is divorcing her husband.
Everything she has learnt has enabled her to manage it all calmly and amicably. All I can assume is she had some sort of epiphany, a lightbulb moment, but she's a changed person and more confident and positive.
It's taken time and effort but she says she realised she couldn't change other people or situations but she could change herself and her reactions to everything.
She still drinks two bottles of wine a week though.