Hi
This may go on a bit but me my mum and my aunty are at a loss about my uncle (their brother).
So he was my grandmas youngest child and only son. He’s 50. He never moved out of the family home, if he was a child nowadays I’m sure there’d be a diagnosis for it.
What he’s told us is his official diagnosis is of mild CP. He can walk, but his balance is a bit off and he has tight muscles. We’d all agree and my grandma (died 2018) would agree that he has the mental age of a young teenager. However this is not diagnosed.
My grandma has RA and osteoarthritis as well as other arthritic/joint conditions however she was a strong independent Irish woman, she only took paracetamol and ibuprofen and was fiercely independent.
My uncle keeps playing this narrative that he cared for her/was her carer/sole carer. No family member saw any evidence of this except he would make cups of teas and heat up meals.
She had home carers in and a cleaner. My mum did all the washing and laundry and all housework (not done by cleaner/home carers). My aunty washed and did my grandmas hair. One of the sisters would take her to all appointments. My mum went down at 6am every morning. She was unable to go back to work because of this. My mum would prepare meals also.
He really pushes this narrative, joined carers groups etc etc. I’m sorry if this sounds harsh but my grandma was his carer, and cared for herself not the other way round. A few of the at home carers (who were great ) had a word with us to say they did more for him than her.
He has had all sorts of procedures tests and appointments but to no official diagnosis or results. He went in for a gallbladder operation/test thing and the dr said it was the healthiest gallbladder he’d seen in a long time.
He’s under the pain team, every time we speak to him there’s a different pain - stomach, back, neck. It doesn’t add up.
He’s just gone to Australia on a month holiday. He told us it was for two weeks. Our lovely relative has sent us photos of him doing all sorts. He certainly wouldn’t do this at home.
He’s also been saying lots of things to my great aunt. We were visiting a few months ago and she rang to explain she wasn’t sure what he was talking about. My mum is being made out to be public enemy 1. If anything she’s his second mother (and the eldest).
Has anyone experienced anything like this, he is secretive, deceptive and burning through his savings.