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indigo22 · 07/08/2019 13:08

Hello,

I would like to have some advice on my situation if that is ok. I have recently been diagnosed with OCD at 23 (female) but I have had it since I was 18. I am now on the waiting list for high intensity CBT, which I am feeling positive about. My OCD is based around doubting and checking.

I have a partner who is as supportive as he can be, but he struggles to understand on times as he is completely opposite to me, very relaxed etc.

I spoke to my mother about it for the first time today and explained what my tendencies are for checking, I was hoping she would then understand more. However I was really surprised when she said she knew I'd had issues with checking for years. For instance she noticed I repeatedly checked my contraceptive pill (whether I had taken it and doubting myself etc). Then when I told her that I check what I've written over and over again for example, she just snorted and made a face as if to say 'that's weird'. I know it's not her fault but I can't help but feel very disappointed in her reaction and that she didn't advise me to seek help when she could visibly see I was struggling at 18 (at that point I didn't know what was happening to me, I now realise it was OCD symptoms).

I am just wondering should I even bother trying to keep explaining OCD to her or should I just leave it? Because whilst I would like family support, she was saying things like 'but it's important to check things to make sure you get it right' so I'm a little worried about it hindering my progress. I don't know if there's any advice any of you can give me on how to explain these things to family members.

I just feel v embarrassed right now but after opening up to a friend who has similar tendencies, I felt a lot better so I was hoping to do the same with family.

Thanks in advance

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Anxiouszalice · 10/08/2019 18:27

Hi OP,

That's great that you're on the waiting list for CBT- I hope it goes well!

Your Mum's reaction doesn't sound helpful but perhaps she just has a really poor understanding of mental health conditions. She might not have realised how much you were struggling at 18 or that it's a major problem now.

At least your partner is supportive so hopefully he can learn more about OCD and get involved with helping with CBT if you want him to too.

The charity OCDuk has a forum, which is great if you want to talk to people who really understand what you're going through!

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