Dialetical behaviour therapy it’s good
I’m glad to hear that Grump it is really good to find therapies that work for us.
recoveryispossible thanks for starting that other thread I read through it all before I started this one. It was such a helpful thread. It is so good to read about the progress you have made though the quicksand. I am well stuck in at the moment hearing there is hope is great. Well done you on all your academic achievements, that is so huge.
thisismyneuusername thank you for your insights. I totally see what you are saying. This part
or still dealing with dysfunctional relationships
I think has been totally just recently integrated into my conscience realisation just this week. I got my cPTSD from childhood abuse and parental emotional abandonment but I was retraumatised by my families response to that abuse. I had been in denial that I could work through my family relationships and I continuously got anxious trying to make them work. Now I’ve realised my family caused PTSD and I have to work on treating my PTSD and then maybe in the future have very different family relationships if ever. The relationships are too toxic and too dysfunctional based on life long poor family interactions to even try with most (not all) of them. It is hard but otherwise I am constantly battling myself for peace.
Dh, who seemed to understand my struggle a few days and was very encouraging and interested about my therapist appointment, has made massive digs at me today
This had been a real issue in my own relationship with DH but we tackled it. My DH has been fabulous but man he loved his digs when he got frustrated which given how hard this has been for all of us is a lot. His digs led to my digs and on and on. We had a weekend where we called each other out every time just so we could see what was going on. It was very effective and it changed our communication dynamic.
You don’t need to apologise for writing what you perceived to be something negative, I think that might be your inner critic talking to you, what you wrote made lots of sense. On a journey delving through the quicksand that is trauma there is simply no happy clappy way through, no matter how many self help books say otherwise.
Pinkflowerfairy sorry to hear your therapy hasn’t been useful. I would say CBT has played a role but not a key role in my recovery journey. Mainly focussed on reprogramming childhood conditioning. I have an excellent therapist but I have to pay privately so I only was going monthly and then stopped and now am back to twice weekly for a sort while maybe 6 sessions while I am in the mire. I also use a lot of reading to help between sessions. Mainly books because I find them better researched. The benefit of having large gaps between sessions is that I have become more conscious and confident that I am the main driver of my recovery not a therapist. All in all it will cost me about £500 in therapy in the last 2 years. My child has ASD too, it is so tough to try to deal with the PTSD while dealing with the other challenges life throws up.
Cut out the hideously dysfunctional family which was by turns hideously painful and hugely liberating
That is where I am at, it is so torturous and I am worried that some good ones will be lost to this too which is very sad.
I just started to stand up for myself and for other people in a way I had never been taught to do.
That is really wonderful, what you have achieved is amazing.