I don't trust dh with our dc

[theanxiousmammy]

Please don't comment if you're going to be unkind. My anxiety is at an all time high and anytime my husband wants to take the children out somewhere on his own, I feel so panicked and physically sick. Our children are 3 and 9 months so it's not like we've got a tiny newborn. But I just feel like something could happen when they are out with him or that he wouldn't watch them as vigilantly as I do. I know this sounds terrible to say this about my husband but I feel sometimes he doesn't appreciate that he needs to keep his attention on the children and not his phone or talking to other people.

How can I relax about this? I should add there hasn't been any incidents in the past, I just build up scenarios in my head.

I feel the same. In fact I used to be constantly texting when dh is out with dc. I'd constantly fear the worst.
I've had some cbt over it too, and they suggest to start small and build up. So perhaps start by staying home so that dh can take dc to local shop for example and slowly build up the time they are out together over time.
Keep yourself busy whilst they are out together, or have a nice relaxing bath if your at home.
I always ask dh to give me an update when they arrive and as they are leaving, but for the rest of the time I try to resist the urge to check up on them. I tell myself it's just anxiety, they are going to be fine, so usually keep trying to distract myself. It's tough op but you can do it!