Pregnancy anxiety - asking for help and stories

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Hello,

I'm currently 22+5 weeks pregnant and have been experiencing strong anxiety for a good while. I look fine from outside, don't want to make my DH or DC worry so I put a smile on and pretend everything is fine.

However I'm terrified something will happen to my baby. I feel like crying, and do cry sometimes when I'm alone, struggle to fall asleep etc.. I have always been an anxious person, but thought it was a personality trait I could do nothing about. My dad is very anxious as well and I always assumed you just have to put up with it.

Talking to my mother is useless, she's very laid back and just tells me not to get worried as I have everything I need (she's right, I have a helthy child, food and a house). I feel like a fraud sometimes.

With my first child I had an anterior placenta and couldn't feel him move well and ended up in triage so many times.This time placenta is up, but baby is still not moving everyday.

I don't know if mentioning again to my midwife in two weeks, as they are really busy and I'm not sure what support I could get.

I'm really desperate by now and feel like I'm keeping a secret that is crushing me.

Did you ever go through it? Did anyone offer to help?

Bumping this for you op

Hello :)
So I’m not a mum, (hopefully one day) I have experienced a pregnancy before and I have a severe anxiety disorder, so I hope I can help...

I want you to try and remember that anxiety is a liar. You and your baby are not in any danger. I know anxiety convinces us there is a real danger and I’m not undermining how you feel. You have a beautiful life growing inside of you and god wants you to enjoy every second of it. Anxiety will try and rob your enjoyment. Remember you are not your anxiety. If you can recognise these anxious thoughts for what they, just thoughts, and move towards a feeling of peace and joy. You’ll see the reality that all is well :)

You aren’t alone. Load of mother’s experience anxiety. Some worse then others. I’m 18 weeks and worry that I don’t feel baby. Sometimes I feel what I think might be baby, but wish I had some clear signals. I would definitely mention to the midwife again. And in a few weeks you will hopefully feel baby more as baby grows bigger.

It's hard isn't it? Once they are out it gets easier understanding their cues, when they are in is very different. I'd like to get some help for it and mentioned to my midwife, but I think they are very busy and resources are already stretched.

I wish to overcome it one day, and be just relaxed for once. Even just getting on a plane without the fear of the wings coming off or the engine catching fire (I'm the annoying passenger always asking if "that noise" was normal)