Really torn up about this. My DD is almost 15 and has a lot of friends with MH issues. She's a mothering and compassionate sort and is stable herself, but has a number of friends who self harm and have depression. My girl wants to be there for them all and to love them into wellness, bless her.
Lately, one of these friends has expressed suicidal ideation. She has been telling DD matter of factly that she intends to kill herself one day and that there is nothing my girl - or anyone else - can do to stop her. She has told her that she has already attempted suicide but was talked down at the last minute by one friend or other. She says she ruins everyone's lives, is worthless and that everyone would be better off is she was dead. She is considering an overdose.
We don't know what to do. My girl is in bits about this. She can't cope with such pressure herself.I know this friend personally, but she is cross questioning my DD about how much I know, telling her that she cannot tell me anything. I am friends with her mother too. My instinct screams at me to tell her mum, but my DD says that if she is found out to have betrayed the girls' trust by telling me, then she fears this will send her friend over the top and feeling she can trust no one.
I don't know what to do. The mother knows she is in a bad way already and that she has been self harming. I feel torn between telling my friend about her daughter's recent alarming behaviour and keeping it quiet for now so as the girl feels she still has the confidence and trust of her best friend. She massively distrusts adults as it is.
On top of this, my girl has her exams looming in the next 11 months and she is breaking under this pressure. Not just from this friend, but from the pain of others.
Asking not for judgement, but clarity.