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changeofname0987 · 02/07/2019 17:39

I know this is just a low spell but I'm really struggling. Have become so good at ploughing onwards, putting a brave face on but I'm home alone until 7:30pm and having a temporary wallow.

I got divorced 2 years ago and although I don't wwant him back I'm still utterly heartbroken about what it has done to our DDs (9&7). And in hindsight I don't know how I didn't see what my ex was like and I'm so sad that I didn't see what apparently, many others could (narcissist and serial cheater). I'm humiliated and heartbroken that I let myself down like that.

We're still in the family home though it's up for sale. I want to move as it's a horrible limbo living in the house we renovated together... house of failed dreams but it's also a huge wrench. This is all my girls have ever known and they love it. My youngest daughter doesn't want to move and still struggles so much with life post-divorce. It came as a total shock to them as we never argued. We will have to move out of the area as I'm priced out as a single person. Finances are all agreed, I just want to move on but I'm terrrified. Am probably depressed.

I feel so empty trying to stay positive for my girls and doing everything myself. I'm tired.

I'm on the phone at the mo negotiating an offer someone's made on our home. I feel sick but I know it's ultimately what I want and need.

OP posts:
cakeandchampagne · 02/07/2019 18:57

Flowers Sorry things are still so rough.
When the children are gone, are you doing some things for yourself- an extra-long bath, shopping, a movie, etc.?
Have you known for two years that you’d be moving?
Have you considered counseling?

changeofname0987 · 02/07/2019 22:26

Thank you @cakeandchampagne I do try to do that stuff but find myself wasting time and getting into bad habits. Will try harder. Yes the house has been on the market for a year, it's been like an anvil over our heads, making it tidy for viewings etc.

I had counselling and it was great, will definitely think about going back. I think I'd even consider antidepressants now but they could interfere with some other meds I'm on that allow me to drive so wouldn't be easy.

I think I know what I have to do - but some days the emotional burden is just so overwhelming and isolating. Thanks for replying Flowers

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cakeandchampagne · 05/07/2019 11:42

Will your children be with your ex this weekend? I hope he takes reasonably good care of them, so you don’t worry too much.
Any house viewings soon?
How are you doing? Flowers

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