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Current job has had me in an anxiety riddled hell

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Happyfuture · 22/06/2019 23:09

I've been at my job for over 2 years, and the job itself has been fine, but my boss has pushed me mentally so much and for so long that my anxiety is destroying my home life, and I feel like my constant worry as to my bosses mood any day I'm in has me in an emotional mess. I'm fearful as to what I'm going to encounter on any given day. At first I thought I was being thin skinned, but seeing over 14 people walk out of my workplace in the 2 years it's been up and running, and hearing the other people's sides of their experience with him, makes me see that it's very unhealthy. I can't sleep and cannot function on my days off. I have stopped socialising, and have a massive fear of my phone ringing or emails Incase it's him. He likes to message through WhatsApp to a group message where he will have tyrannical sweary abusive rants at all of us, I confronted him and said I was leaving it, to which he said I would lose my job if I did. Hes always passing his mistakes onto his workforce, even tho we have no physical way of causing them as the jobs he does we are not allowed access to. He's even told us all that we are easily replaced. I've come to the end of my rope and I've decided to hand my notice in. Thing is I have a week until payday, and as he is in complete control over paying me, I'm scared if I hand my notice in before payday he will withold my pay (he's done this to other ex co workers)
I've lined another job up but don't want to tell him where as I'm fearful he will decide to contact them and bad mouth me as punishment for leaving. He's the kind of person who will do anything to get back at someone. Anyone have any advice? I'm literally scared to go back to work tomorrow as I don't know what I'm walking into due to his multiple personalities

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changechange · 22/06/2019 23:16

Are you in the U.K.? Contact acas for advice?

And keep remembering you'll be out of there soon

Happyfuture · 22/06/2019 23:31

I am yes. Thank you, I'm constantly saying I'm leaving it's ok, but I just don't trust him. I've two resignation letters typed out, one saying from tomorrow for 2 weeks notice and one from next Friday (payday) for one weeks notice asking for it to be paid by holidays owing. The second one isn't sitting right with me as I feel like it goes against who I am as I like to be fair but I'm worried if I hand in tomorrow he will delay my pay or just not pay me.

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Namaste6 · 22/06/2019 23:33

He sounds like an insecure, uneducated, nasty knob OP. Contact acas and get his pathetic arse kicked into next year.

ginswinger · 23/06/2019 00:13

Can you manage to wirk until payday then hand in your notice and go on sick leave? TBH I think that going back into the office would be detrimental to your health so you have cause to do so. Turn off your phone outside of office hours, likewise email. take some time to relax and chill out. This is only a job and you are going to feel so much better when you leave.

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