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Think I'm having some kind of breakdown?

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KatDubs261 · 20/06/2019 12:16

It's been a rough couple of years. My ex boyfriend cheated on me & went off with another woman. I didn't get into the teaching dipoma I really wanted & was refused feedback. My grandfather died & my grandmother's dementia has reached the final stages. My boss stopped paying me for months so I had to find a new job. Then I met a really lovely guy who raised my spirits for a while, but we also split up as we wanted different things out of life but still loved each other. He was probably my main support.

On top of this, I have been struggling with 2 health issues: I've had a chronic foot issue which lately has become unbearably painful. I also had tests done where a doc said 'there was something wrong with the brain signals to my ovaries' which needs to be investigated. Looking at me I seem like a healthy enough 20 something.

I finally snapped today. I have one more week of work left at a job where I've been working 12 hours a day and commuting almost 3 1/2 hours. I woke up feel dread at another day without my ex and have the most debilitating pain I've had in my foot...in maybe years? Up until recently it has been quite manageable.

Anyway I haven't been sleeping well, I try to eat and only manage a few bites at the moment. The job accepted my resignation - I am due to start a new job in about 2 weeks so am hoping I can spend a week resting and recovering but I could use some advice/support.

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growlingbear · 20/06/2019 17:16

Hi
You poor, poor thing. That sounds like the shittiest few years and you truly deserve a break. It's very good to know you have some time off between the two jobs.
I'd do a massive self care inventory and devote the whole two weeks to you.
Have a day in bed or if sunny lying out in the garden.
Sign up for some yoga and meditation sessions, either locally or online.
If your foot is too painful for other exercise, maybe go for a swim a few times.
Buy yourself a big box set of feelgood comedies and watch them.
Buy yourself super nutritious foods, some lovely bath products and maybe a few new summery outfits.
Get teeth and eyes checked and book GP appointment if you feel ready to set further investigations in motion with your fertility issues. Definitely insist they do something about your foot.
Book a haircut and brows/nails.
Get in touch with some people who usually raise your spirits and meet up with them.
Get a journal and spend some time each day during those two weeks just playing around in it. Make some life lists - bucket lists of big and small things you'd like to achieve, or some charts for regular self care to ensure you get exercise, water, fun etc.
Start to book some things to look forward to in your diary - one a week for the next few weeks. You really need this as you've had so much grim stuff to deal with, you need some treats and good times ahead.

KatDubs261 · 20/06/2019 20:28

Aw growlingbear, thank you so much for this list!

I am lucky enough to have a balcony so I sat in the sun reading my book for a short time today. While trying to eat lunch but wasn't able to manage much.

I am meeting friends for tlc & dinner/drinks tomorrow - plus I am going to host my first ever event for an international womens group.

I haven't been able to treat myself as much as I'd like because my boss stopped paying me. So I had to give up yoga classes and the things that kept my mental health afloat.

5 years ago I had x rays on the NHS, waited 6 months to see an advanced doctor etc, but they could never resolve my problem. Recently I saw a podiatrist who said I had to go back with a referral from her and make them take it seriously.

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growlingbear · 20/06/2019 23:04

I hope you are taking your boss to court to reclaim what you are owed. Small claims court is very cheap and easy to do if the sum is not much. Or get legal advice.

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