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Bullying

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blahblah88 · 18/06/2019 15:50

I'm currently being bullied by my friend's wife, and I have been for some time. I have shown messages and spoken about it to another friend and she agreed with me so I know I'm not imagining it or overreacting. It's been really hard lately. I've been going through a huge bout of depression and both things combined have led to needing time off work. I could cope with one or the other but not both. My friend has told me that even though he doesn't agree with everything that his wife says to me, he has to because she's his wife. My other friend who I've been talking to about this has told me that there is no way she'd expect her husband to agree with her if she was saying the same things to one of his friends. I don't know what to do because I don't want to lose my friend but it's so damn hard. If she was a stand-alone friend I'd just block her on Facebook and cut all contact, but if I do that I lose him too. Tbh I haven't actually spoken to her in over a month and that feels great but it's meant I've had to limit my time spent with him because I can't be around the both of them together at the minute. It's affecting my mental health too much. Any advice?

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BlankSpace1 · 19/06/2019 10:36

Sorry this sounds awful, it's never this simple.. but I say cut the friend. If he was a true friend he wouldn't let his wife treat you like shit,
I'd never watch my partner bully someone and be like oh that's bad but I got to stand by them, ummmm.. no! I mean, would you??

It's painful, but your own health is more important and maybe they will see that they were wrong when you're gone and come back and try to make it right, then it's up to you.. but for now the most important thing is trying to preserve your own mental health and well-being for your own sake and the sake of your loved ones!
Good luck xx

blahblah88 · 19/06/2019 11:26

@BlankSpace1 Thanks Smile tbh I've wanted to cut contact with them both for at least a year now. I've known that I've needed to for longer. The only thing holding me back is that he is my closest friend in the world so it's hard and so damn confusing that he lets her treat me like that.

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BlankSpace1 · 19/06/2019 11:47

Sometimes knowing you need to do it doesn't make it easy!! And it's harder when you can't understand why someone lets you get hurt when you'd never do it to them..
The thing that helps tho is remembering exactly that! You'd never do it so as someone who wouldn't, you won't understand why they are.. if that makes sense 😂

People are assholes 🤷🏽‍♀️ cut them off and go do something to feel good about yourself cus you deserve it!! 😊

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