Help! Feeling so down 2weeks till I have baby

[newmommababy]

I think I may have the start of prenatal depression
2 weeks till due date with 1st baby and I'm feeling awful, anyone offer and help
Or support? Have a great husband great family and friends yet I feel so alone

Hi there, that sounds really tough. Our advice would always be to seek some professional help from your GP or midwife but we are bumping this for you in case anyone can help.

We can also move this to our mental health section where you might get more responses if you would like?

Hi @newmommababy how are you feeling today?

My little girl was born at the end of December last year. I struggled from the start, it came as a massive shock as I'd never had any mental health problems before.

Make sure you talk to people. Like you I had a fab husband and family around me but I felt alone. I went to talk to the doctor and it really helped. I've been taking medication for a couple of months now and I finally feel like I'm getting back to normal.

Please don't be afraid to seek help, it's nothing to be ashamed of and I wish people talked about it more x

Thankyou both of you,
Sorry to hear you felt like this too but also nice to hear that I'm not alone,
I never thought I suffered with mental health but I think I do now,
I have good days like today's been good and I've been really excited getting baby's clothes washed and ready for him with 2 weeks to go, but I no tomorrow will probably be a bad day and on those days I find it hard to pull myself out, I feel guilty because I don't want my husband to think I'm upset or down and ruin any of this for him, I feel like if I talk to my dr then my husband and family and friends will find out and I no that's silly cause it's nothing to be ashamed off I just wish I was braver, so the medication you had helped you? Are you still on it? Thanks for your reply x

@EstherMumsnet yes please to posting it to the mental health page, thankyou x

You don't have to tell anyone if you go to the doctor. A lot of people have the misconception that if you admit to depression during or after pregnancy that your baby might be taken away but that's not the case at all. Depression is so common.

I'm currently on the lowest dose of Sertraline, the doctor said I need to stay on it for 6 months to see how things go but I do believe it helped me a lot. I've been able to cope with motherhood better and I don't feel as anxious anymore x

That's good i would love to be able to stop or be in control of how I feel, all I wanted for so long was a baby, my sister had babies and I love them to bits love having them etc but as soon as I found out I was pregnant I didn't at all feel how I thought I would and now I'm worrying what if that feeling only gets worse when I have the baby, I already love my baby so much I just feel so guilty for feeling like this :/ x

How are you feeling @newmommababy ?

@Roomarmoset thankyou for
Checking in on me
I'm feeling better and more positive thanks
2 weeks today and baby will be here and I just wish it would hurry up so I
Can stop sitting around
Over thinking and have somthing to focus on and keep me busy with
How are you? X

We've moved this for you. Best wishes.

Hi OP, there are a few of us chatting on a different thread which you may find useful...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3603122-36-weeks-anyone

You still doing okay?
I'm okay, little one is 6 months old now 😊😊

Aw good pleased to hear it :) yeah I've had s really good few days, longest I've gone without crying or
Generally feeling down now I'm feeling more exited that in 11 days I'll be a mum and I can't wait to meet baby! Xx

You still doing okay @newmommababy ? How long have you got left?x

Yeah I'm
Doing ok I think, thankyou :)
I go in to hospital Monday and have c section on Tuesday around dinner time, I can't stop thinking and over thinking about it all, I normally have a high pain thresh hold it's not that it's the fact I'm so squeamish and am worried incase I have a panic attack while there operating and also I feel sick and faint when laid on my back so I'm worried about being sick too, I wish it would hurry up so I can just get it done cause these last few days have been hell, I havnt been thinking about when baby actually gets here cause I feel I have such a mountain to climb 1st :/ xx

How are you @newmommababy ?x

Hi @Roomarmoset
Sorry I've only just seen your message

Unfortunately our little boy passed away 3 weeks ago x

Oh my gosh @newmommababy I'm so sorry 😢 I don't want to ask how you're doing as I know it's a silly question. Have you got good support around you?xx

@Roomarmoset thankyou , that's ok, yeah I've got good family and friends around me they are helping at this difficult time, I feel so much Guilt if how I could ever think I wouldn't have wanted him because when he was here I loved it more than I knew possible and now he's gone it's just empty xx

newmommababy, I am so sorry. Please make use of all the support around you, and do ask for more if you need it.

@Equimum thankyou I shall try to 💙💖 xx