Anxiety, worrying about child dying

[BrizMa]

Hi,

My daughter has only just turned one. My brother died after taking his own life in 2012; he was only 22. I am still really upset about his death and him not being around to meet my daughter.

My problem at the moment is I'm becoming increasingly more anxious about my daughter dying. I'm also worried that she will grow up and be as depressed as he was and take her own life.

I think I've spent the past six years feeling like I've not got anything else I can lose and that I've survived the worst of it. Now I've got her I realise that I can lose something else and it's terrifying.

My condolences for the loss of your brother.
Have you been to see a councellor to help you with your grief?

My councellor helped me break down the grief into manageable parts. I dealt with the ones I could and was left with just the honest sadness for the loss of my sister.

If you haven't seen anyone I expect you have a mix of questions, guilt, fear, loss... some of which may be helped by talking.

You owe it to your daughter to make yourself strong. Actually that's what drove me to get help... My dd was ill (MH) and I could only help her if I helped me first.

There's no reason to think your daughter will die, but you need to be strong to guide her through life. Learn to see the good things and be positive.