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Not sure how much more I can take

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willitevergetbetter · 22/07/2007 22:35

I felt depressed before I had my ds, my childhood was ok but I never really got over the death of my sister and then my mum fell really ill during my teens. When I went to university, it really hit me how crap I felt about myself, it probably didn' help that I lived with a bunch of complete bastards in my first year halls who were intent on making my life a misery.

Anyway, I fell pregnant with my ds in my final year and managed to complete my studies and come out with a 2:1.

I left university two years ago and felt really positive about the future, teh first time in ages. However, since leaving I feel that things have taken a downward spiral.

I'm no longer with the father of my child and I'm living on my own with my son.

Everyday I wake up worried and feeling sick about the future. I feel depressed most days and sometimes I just lie in bed wishing my life away - the only thing that keeps me going is ds.

I am constantly worrying about money, debts, job etc.

My depression gets to the point where I dont really want to carry on anymore and as cliched as it sounds I feel as though I've lost the will to live. I feel suffocated and it's if I'm just existing and breathing rather than living my life.

I don't resent my ds but I feel frustrated that I everything I strove for before I had him has taken a backseat. I know that sounds selfish and I realise that ds comes before anyone and anything but sometimes I feel so low and crap that I just feel like I;m not me anymore.

I've had counselling, psychotherapy and anti-d's in the past but I don't know if that's the route I want to take again.

I just want to know if things will get better, when and how. I need some support but I'm scraed to ask my family as everytime I bring it up they shrug it off as if I'm making things out to be worse than they are.

I don't know what to do anymore.

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Penpen · 22/07/2007 22:48

Been there myself. Got pregnant in 2nd yr of degree, got 1st! split with father when ds1 born, then my sister comited suicide soon after. luckily lived with my family for 18months after ds1 born.

Met lovely man, got married now have 2 boys. ds2 now 6 months old. I've suffered with post natal depression.

got anti-depressants which have made all the difference.

You should go to PNI website, talk onlne with Lisa, I know her through nursery, she's lovely. Also read some posts, you'll realise you're not alone with how u r feeling!

You must be strong for your son! why not see your GP for meds again, things just seem brighter and at least get u out of bed!!!

You do have a bright future ahead of you as you have a gorgeous son!

I once felt like there was only a bleak future but that is just the illness talking. There is a way out of it, you just have to believe it and get some help in what ever way seems right for u.

good luck and please look at the PNI website, google it and it comes up!

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