Hi Just really after some advice for my SIL.
we have a really tight relationship and are very close. 2 years ago my SIL marriage broke down her husband kicked her out of marital home there was reason to believe he was having an affair but that a whole different story and might be outing. However they share a son together courts have finalised order that child stays with mum and dad have over night and holiday contact. Whilst going through divorce i started to notice how depressed she really was when talking she would cry hours on end she really loved him and imagined her life with him i guess she was so hurt that he didnt feel the same. over the course of the last 2 years her ex husband plays mind games would choose to give attention than take it away further throwing her in to turmoil. some days he would pick their son up and shower her with attention ask about her day tell her she beautiful ask for more chances other days he would pick up their son without even a simple hello. we have advised her he just playing with her but i guess she doesnt wsnt to hear that. over the last 6 months she has lost severe amount of weight she looks ill so unhappy she always tired stuff she loved to do she now has 'no energy' for. she does however look after her son almost as if on autopilot i dont think she would harm herself but she so on edge and anxious. Having been through depression i can notice some of the stuff she does which worries me. i have finally convinced her to seek some help so together we booked a gp appointment today. so my first question is how do i go about asking for support for her it is so hard to get and appointment i dont want to waste one obviously i will let her talk but if she gets stuck or dazes out than i want to be able to say my concerns would this be a good idea?
my second concern is the custody of her son. they court order is complete now they have no ongoing case or anything so by her going to seek help for depression would that make her unfit to look after her son because if he was to be taken from her i wouldnt know how she would cope and in all circumstances i think that would be worse than anything she going through now.
would really appreciate any advice. Thanks IA