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Can you get through this without doctors?

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Karlwho · 21/05/2019 19:02

I'll try not to drag this out. I don't want it to be a sob story.
I was abused as a kid (every way) and I've known 'something isn't right' with my family situation since I was 12. I'm now 31 and I've decided enough is enough. I'm dealing with anxiety and c-ptsd and I'm determined to get through it. I had a 'lightbulb' moment at the start of this year when I realised what had been going on the whole time (abusive family) and got myself and my own family away from the main cause of my stress.
I 've done everything I can think of to protect myself, my family, and to try and get myself better. I've got help from the police, I've been to my doctor, been put on meds, and tried counselling. BUT, I feel massively let down (want for a better term) by the counselling I've been offered. Neither options got back to me, and after a bit of research, one of the recommendations I was given is ran by un-qualified volunteers (who also ask for payment 'in prayers'). My gp pushed me for CBT, but the cbt practitioners told me I wouldn't benefit from it as it would invalidate my feelings and just not help.
I've looked at private counselling and I simply cannot afford it. I've exhausted the 'proper' options.
What I'm asking is: have you ever helped/healed yourself without the help of other pros? Is it possible? What did you do?
I've upped my exercise massively. I've near enough removed caffeine from my diet (so hard Sad). I eat healthily, I meditate, I read the self-help books, watch the inspiring videos... Is there anything I've missed?
I feel I get more help from my pinterest board th an the NHS!

Sorry for the long post

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Watersnail · 21/05/2019 19:19

MIND has a list of organisations that can help survivors of abuse.

I'd avoid CBT as it won't get to the issues you need to talk about.

TheFatberg · 21/05/2019 19:22

Can you ask about EMDR? The thing with PTSD is that it doesn't just go away on its own. Complex developmental trauma like you've experienced has an impact on how memories are stored and how the brain develops, so you can't just hope it will go away or you can think yourself out of it with willpower. Something like EMDR would potentially work really well for you.

I'm sorry nothing has worked for you so far, and I'm sorry that you experienced what you did in your early life.

Karlwho · 21/05/2019 19:45

@Watersnail it was a counsellor from MIND that I spoke to today lol. I'll have another look through their website see if there's anything I could find.
@TheFatberg just googled that - sounds crazy! There's a couple of practitioners near me, and one of them does NHS apps. I'll call tomorrow, maybe I'll have to go back through gp and request it?

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