People have no idea!

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I have a stepdaughter who's nearly 21, she has an array of mental health issues and is making our lives a living hell. She abuses us verbally on a daily basis, all hours of the day and night, smashes things, on occasion has waved kitchen knives about, accuses us of all sorts, we've had five visits from the police on account of the constant disturbance. Mental health services about as much use as a chocolate teapot. As long as they're not dealing with it they couldn't give a damn. They don't see this foulmouthed threatening little so-and-so, covered in tattoos, causing mayhem. It's easy to be sympathetic to anyone with an illness, but who cares about the collateral damage?

Oh dear... you sound like you are the target for her anxiety. Unfortunately the CMHT only act if there os a crisis & in my experience even then they don't do much.

Is there anyone else in the family or who she knows who might be able to help? I would also revisit the GP & explain that the CMHT aren't helping & ask for a referral to adult social care where she may be able to get some sort of residential housing with support. Also try MIND & you could also call Young Minds who are actually very good with parents- its pretty awful for you I know but don't give up - I think that a conversation with your partner & possibly your SD so that you can explore what your family needs & where this is likely to come from

Has anyone suggest borderline personality disorder as a possibility? It is difficult to diagnose at her age because her brain is still developing - but it might be worth reading Stop Walking On Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder to see if it rings any bells.

My own life has been made a living hell by a 19 year old with MH problems. I am slowly learning that I need to have more boundaries - which is scary because of the self herm, but it doesn't do any of us any good to continuously let her get away with things.

Oh not half, that's supposed to be one of her conditions. We've got that book. I'd love a day off.
She's got all the terminology off to a tee..

Don't know what her tattoos have to do with it. Seems like an odd thing to be focussed on given what your going through. If she is putting you all in harms way then that isn't diminished because she is unwell. I have mental health issues and sometimes it is difficult to control my emotions. If I were a danger To my loved ones I would want them to be safe. If you have tried all other avenues then perhaps it's time for desperate measures. Take her to the council or adult social services with her bags and say you are evicting her. Then they'll have no choice but to step in.