Hello - hoping someone here can help me out today!
Backstory: 14 yo DS has been in trouble at school recently - he's at a private school & whilst they have been very supportive his place is in jeopardy if he does anything else in the same vein / stupid.
We've agreed he needs help and got him a psychologist privately as I've seen in here how hard people struggle to get help :( He needs intervention now.
Anyway the above is so as not to drip feed.
He's got exams at the minute - not GCSE - that's next year. He's had a tough year health wise and has got behind in some subjects.
This morning he had the worst melt down - screaming and crying that he doesn't know anything - I mean it was like a total MH breakdown - really difficult to handle when I've got two younger DCs to get to school.
Managed to get him to go in and try his best in the end but I'm so worried he's headed for some major MH problems and I just don't know what to do.
How do I handle it when he's like that - crying and throwing himself around? He's so emotional. I do t know but it seems beyond the normal teen stuff and his emotional reactions are what's getting him into trouble. I've got a lot going on right now, a lot on my plate but I'm trying my best to hold it all together - it's really got to me today, I feel like such a massive failure as a parent.
What do I do? How do you handle it? Should I have let him not go to school? Thing is because he's been in trouble how would that have helped? Exams won't go away plus he's risking his place. He started shouting about school (who don't put them under loads of pressure which is probably how he's managed to get away with doing bare minimum) and I said GCSEs are the same bloody exams for everyone! Then he says they will make him drop subjects and he will end up doing two GCSEs 
Anyway, it's not really the problem as I can get help with all that - with his agreement I can help him work out how and when he will study if he wants to do well.
The problem is he buries his head in the sand, doesn't face up to issues and then explodes and has a total meltdown and rants and raves and it's not healthy & it's affecting the rest of the family, including me. I lost it and cried in front of other DCs this morning as I just felt so lost and useless and powerless and like a totally shit mum. How do I help him?!? Please help me know what to do.