Just kicked my DDs beanbag across the room

[HairyToe]

Am i worse mum in world? DH is away on business,DD1 has throat infection. We just went to doctors (managed to reverse into a bollard in the car park while I was there) and got anti-biotic medicine.

Was stuck in house all day with them yesterday as DD1 is too tired to go out anywhere. Stuck in again today. To make things even more exciting I have builders and electricians in house so chaos everywhere. DD2 is going nuts crawling madly around the house trying to break things or kill herself. Feeling a bit fed up. Then DD1 would not take her medicine and just spat it out all over me. I lost it and shouted and swore before kicking her beloved beanbag across room.

Rang Mum in tears and while i was crying and ranting down the phone the builder must have come back from his break and heard me then saw me looking like a mad woman with puffy red eyes. Now not only am I feeling miserable and guilty but v. embarassed .

Has anyone got anything comforting to say? I'd certainly appreciate it

There, there, sweetheart. How about a nice cup of tea

I've done very similar in my time

You're completely normal. I threw DD's doll across the room last week
You're having a rough time and she's probably forgotten it already xxx

sometimes things can get too much and you can't beat yourself up over it - you didn't neat your child you kicked an inanimate object and allthough this must have scared and/or hurt her I am sure that she will forgive you......make sure you love her to bit and pieces and go eay on yourself......

Go and give DDs snuggles and have a cup of tea! Can you leave DD1 with a dvd and have a run around the garden with DD2. Even if it is wet, you can always give her a nice warm bath and dry her off afterwards.

Thanks for the sympathy and support everyone. We're playing on the computer at the moment and things have calmed down a bit. Buildre has gone home for his lunch.

Mortified that someone else was in the house while I was 'not coping'. He is the husband of xomeone I know as well so more people will find out about my madness.

Calming down quite a lot now. Sometimes (not v pften) my temper surprises me

Don't be embarrassed, I threw a pot of mustard at dh when burglar alarm installers were in once. Cringe. It was a long time ago , but even so.

Temper is a not-so funny thing. I could relay many examples but a) and b) bf ing ds so hard to type.

I lost it with dd in middle of cool arts venue with lots of young trendy arts folk milling about. Youve had a lot to cope with. I'm sure all forgotten now.

Sorry, meant to sound more sympathetic earlier, ds was vying for my attention - quite reasonably of course, I don't spend all day on MN, honest.

Let us know how the rest of your day went, don't be too hard on yourself, must be a nightmare with builders and everything. Did you make up with DD1 over her beanbag? Will come back tomorrow. Good luck x

Hi - thanks for your concern! Rest of day was better if very tiring. DD1 is not ill v. often but when she is she can be v demanding (understandably I suppose). My beanbag kicking trick must have done the trick in one way though as she has taken her next two doses of medicine. She even ate a tiny bit of tea so I'm hoping she's getting better.

I can usually cope with DH being away, I can usually cope with the DDs being ill, I may even have coped well with my house being ripped apart and the entire contents of my kitchen being piled precariously onto the dining room table... but altogether on the same day...just taking the mick.

Just scary to feel sometimes that I'm only a few stressful events away from meltdown. Has anyone any advise for calming down when things hit crisis level? I've had hypnotherapy (which didn't work) and have been taught breathing techniques (which I don't find help enough. I usually go for cathartic sobbing (which I try to hide from the DDs) combined with shouting down the phone at my long-suffering Mum. Not ideal stress managing strategies...

Sounds like a normal day in the Scavo house hold. The only thing that really calms me down is a glass of red wine.

Sorry I'm no help. Just wanted to let you know your're not the only one.

Yup, same, glass of wine once ds in bed, but that's not much help when you are in the midst of feeling on the edge. Would be very interested to read any responses to this as have been known to flip myself on occasion

I only have an 8 month old but can understand how tough things will get when he is older, he was grizzling all day yesterday and I slammed a couple of cupboard doors while I was cooking. I'm usually quite a mellow person.

Hairytoe you sound quite normal. hope things are better today.