I have a relative who suffers from a range of problems - ME, Fibromyalgia, Depression, etc. Her behaviour varies from day to day. Sometimes she is fine both physically and apparently mentally. On other days she struggles to get out of bed.
When it comes to family occasions, we always invite her and she sometimes comes. It is never clear whether she will arrive or not as she often confirms she is definitely coming on the day and then just does not materialise.. But on the last few occasions she has come she has found it difficult to cope, despite everyone treading on egg shells. She has had tearful and aggressive outbursts and stormed out leaving everyone feeling bad - and the elderly members of the family and some of the children distressed. She usually phones or texts afterwards to say she is sorry she has let everybody down again, but that does not change the fact that what should have been an enjoyable occasion has been at very least uncomfortable.
Would I be being unreasonable to tell her that we are not going to invite her any more as she is unable to cope? Or is this just going to make things worse? Part of me says she is being over dramatic and should be able to control herself. But obviously she can’t.
Does anyone have any advice on what to do?