What happens to dc if you tell gp you think about suicide?

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I would never actually leave my children without their mother. But I often think about it.

I want to tell the doctor but I'm worried they will get someone involved and I don't want that as it will make me feel worse..

What happens then you tell the doctor?

Hi,

I don't know the answer to your question about the children, but I know asking whether you have thought about suicide can sometimes be used in an assessment for depression.

Thinking about suicide and being suicidal are different and your GP will understand this and should offer you help accordingly.

I am not medically qualified, only speaking from past experience with the depression assessment. You definitely need to speak to someone, there is so much help out there for us all, there really isn't any need to suffer. The fact that you're actively seeking support will always be seen as a positive! :-)

I suffer with suicidal thoughts. I've had psychiatric nurse involved however that's it. They're there for me not for my children. I believe it depends on how it effects your ability to parent. Though I have suicidal thoughts I've no plans in place and never have. My children are still well cared for.

Anything that is put in place is to support you to be well and/or manage your symptoms. Please reach out to your gp, they won't remove your children just because you are ill.

Also 90% of the time I've only ever had gp involvement. Cpn was put in place after the birth of my first first child until he was 14 months old and then I was in contact with the perinatal mental health team over the past year and a half from being 3 months pregnant with my 2nd dc, and discharged when he was 1.

Nothing will happen to your DC. You may be given higher priority for services because you have DC but as long as they are well cared for (basic needs met and loved - this doesn’t mean perfectly neat house, all organic home cooked food etc.) they will not be involved with any external agencies themselves.

At worst a social worker might want to do an assessment to see if your mental health impacted on the Children but this would be unlikely as they don't have a lot of spare time or resources.

Please don't use that as a reason not to get help or the right help though. I know people who have put off getting help until they were really unwell and it was impacting on their DCs by that point, so it's better to go sooner.

Absolutely nothing will happen unless there is preexisting reason to think you have not been meeting their needs.

The GP will talk to you about treatment for depression. That's literally all.

As above , being depressed doesn't make you a bad mother or unable to meet your children's needs.Social services are only involved if your illness ( whatever it is) means that you need extra help with your DC and this applies in all sorts of scenarios eg broken leg, hysterectomy as well as severe depression and suicidal ideas. Please seek help , you will find your GP is sympathetic and able to assist your recovery.

First of all I'm sorry you are feeling this way.

Please go and speak to your GP about how you are feeling, nothing will happen to your children. The GP can refer you to mental health services who can assess and offer appropriate support whether that is counselling, medication etc

Do you have any support from family or friends who you could talk to?

Thank you for your replies, other than being short tempered sometimes I don't think I've been affecting the kids.

I've been painting on a happy face in front of them for months but it's exhausting and I know exactly what I would do if I didn't have them to look after. Both my sister and Dh have said something to me and I brushed them off but I'm realising now I'm not going to shake this on my own. Yet I also don't want to tell them how bad it's got.

Dh scoffs and rolls his eyes at people with depression so I can't tell him how I feel. Especially as there's no reason for it i haven't experienced trauma or had anything bad happen to me.

Depression is an illness which can occur in anyone for no apparent "reason". It isn't your fault and the best way to get the right help is to be honest with your GP. They have heard it all before and are there to help you.

I had severePND that i struggled with massively as i was so terrified by verbalising my suicidal thoughts&bad feelings(i knew id never leave DC but thoughtDCcould ve been taken from me for feeling like that )..My GP was absolutely amazing(at a check up for DC) she asked me a few questions&i found myself just telling her (like it was completely normal)that i daydreamed about ways to do myself in etc&worried DC be left alone, that i couldnt even find the strength to get it over witht.She listened&reassured me i wasnt me,itWOULD be ok again& gave me2weeks of action plan after i talked her out of me takin meds but said if no change after the2weeks id need to go meds route for interim to get'reset'.Looking back iwish id taken the meds-the fresh air/exercise /motivational route was ok but it took a couple of years before i felt like my old self,in part because i got shot of the arsehole i had DC with &found the 'old'me was still in there but i wish i had the early memories some do!I had a stupid sense of i should be able to get over this
as i have nothing real to worry about or feel depressed about but like my GP said thats the whole point-its an illness&thats what meds are for. Sorry for the ramble-i just wanted to reassure you ive come through the otherside stronger&knowing myself better&i just wished id talked sooner as the1st 18 mths are just a blur of numbness,crying&feeling dead inb
side when it didnt have to be that way.

Nothing will happen. Intrusive thoughts of killing my children were/are a huge feature of PND for me, as well as suicidal thoughts. I’m quite open about it and nobody is seriously concerned. Intrusive thoughts are rarely acted upon, just very unpleasant to experience.

I'm blubbing at each reply. Thank you. I've recently moved and don't even have gp atm but will go get the forms on the way to the school run and book an appointment soon as they will put me in.

Book in as emergency appointment they'll see you as an out of catchment patient while you register. You can fill out the forms while you're waiting to be called for an appointment.