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help i feel so low

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mummypud · 14/07/2007 22:23

i dont know where to start so forgive me if i waffle a bit, my dad is very ill with cancer and i feel like i am no support to my family at all , i want to tell him how much i love him .i have a toddler who has a funny eye and weakness suspected on one side of her body and we dont know what this is yet but im so scared .i suffer with o c d and live in a damp flat with very unconsiderate nieghbours and i just cant cope with it all , everything is getting on top of me and i dont even feel im me any more .

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Beauregard · 14/07/2007 22:32

Feel free to offload
Tell your dad how much you love him .
Do you have a dh or dp to support you?
Are you getting treatment for the ocd?

stressteddy · 14/07/2007 22:33

Love to you mummypud - keep talking to us, it really does seem to help
Tell your Dad how you feel - that'll be a good start to feeling a bit more like you again
x

Judy1234 · 14/07/2007 22:38

Poor you. It may be a good idea to see your GP on Monday about how you're feeling.

When my mother was dying as well as visiting when I could I did write her a letter saying a lot of things which she called to say how much she appreciated. If you feel there are things you can't say to your father face to face you could always do the same sort of thing.

DixiePixie · 14/07/2007 23:38

Sending hugs mummypud. I'm an OCD sufferer too and can understand how stressful it must be in a damp flat. Are you getting any help or support for the OCD? With the right help and support it CAN get better! (I'm having CBT and am on ADs, both of which have helped a lot).

Why do you feel like you are no support to your family? I'm sure you are being way too hard on yourself. It sounds like you are a very caring person.

Please keep writing here if it helps.

VerySweatyBetty · 14/07/2007 23:44

When im feeling down i always think to myself that theres always someone worse off then me! You have a beautiful child and a roof over your head and my god at least your child/children will know how to keep there place clean your setting a good example. And whilst your spending time with your dad tell him how you feel and make the time you do spend together a bloody good one, your regret if you dont!

DixiePixie · 15/07/2007 00:06

OCD can be a very tiring illness because the constant stressing takes up lots of energy. (Sadly it doesn't always mean you have a clean house - depends on what kind of OCD someone has and how it affects them - it can lead to inertia also - my house certainly isn't spotless!)

You have a right to your feelings mummypud. It sounds like you're having an exceptionally hard time at the moment, but it is possible to get through this.

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mummypud · 20/07/2007 07:05

thanks all for your support, still feeling low but trying to tackle one problem at a time instead of all at once, may go and see my gp but i dont know .xxxx

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DixiePixie · 20/07/2007 10:41

Hi mummypud

Glad to see you back on this thread. I had been concerned about how you are. Tackling one problem at a time sounds like a good idea - if you have so much going on in your life whilst you are feeling vulnerable I can imagine that it must be quite easy to get overwhelmed. It could well be a good idea to go to see your GP too. I've found that being on ADs for my OCD takes the edge off the anxiety, which means that I can have a normal life rather than being paralysed by fear all of the time.

Good luck with it all and do keep posting if it helps.

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mummypud · 24/07/2007 08:36

thanks dixie , i havent been to gp yet as dad took a bit of a turn for the worst so i have put it off , also my dd has hospital tomorow , i am trying to concentrate on one thing at a time but its very difficult ,writing on this site is proving to be a great help ,if you dont mind me asking was it easy for you to go to the gp about your ocd .how helpful were they

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DixiePixie · 26/07/2007 18:26

Hi mummypud

Sorry about the late reply. I haven't been on the site for a couple of days. I'm sorry to hear that your dad's taken a turn for the worse. I hope you're bearing up OK, and also that it went well at hospital for your dd yesterday.

In answer to your question, going to the GP about OCD was absolutely fine. It's something I've had to go to various GPs with over the years and I don't remember ever having any problems. Usually they've been pretty sympathetic and have been able to sort me out with ADs. I find what is variable is mental health services if you want to be referred to these to get Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. I've got a fabulous CBT therapist now because my local authority has a really good mental health team, but the local authority that I had where I was living before didn't have CBT therapists on their mental heath team at all. From that point of view it's a bit of a postcode lottery. Going on ADs really helped me, especially after dd was first born, my OCD got really bad and I thought my entire house was contaminated. The ADs helped me to have a normal life again.

As well as GPs, do you have a Health Visitor? My HV when I first had DD and was really ill with it was absolutely amazing - I don't know what I would have done without her.

DD is a year old now. I thought I was falling down a black hole a year ago and it was a scary place, but by getting the help I needed it has totally turned around. I know you have other people to take care of at the moment, but please don't neglect yourself! It can get better.

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