How to find a good counsellor?

[northface90]

I'm looking on the counselling directory at the moment - any tips? I'm just reading their info and hopefully something resonates, that they look approachable in their photo and are affordable.. is there anything I should avoid? They talk about the kind of therapy and approaches, which I'm not to sure about. I think CBT would be useful, although it seems most offer various approaches?

I've had a few counsellors in the past, and have to admit I've just checked that general qualifications look ok, and then gone by their photographs - who looked like I'd feel most comfortable with....
If I look back on the counsellor I liked the best, and got most from working with, it was really just a personality fit more than anything else.... there is no way I could go back and put it down to approach/ level of qualification etc.
Having said that, I'd check and make sure they are qualified, and belong to a prof membership body like Ukcp, bacp, or Ncs; then don't be afraid to shop around - go for a few different initial consultation sessions and see who you feel fits you best!!
Good luck with it, I've found therapy to be challenging at times, but life changing!!

You could ask to speak to them on the phone so you can get a feeling of how comfortable you feel with them?

I think the first session is often about finding out if you can work together. It may take a few tries to find the right person. Good luck!

I think a therapist who can use a variety of approaches is a great idea by the way. They can then pick the right tools for you.

Its all about fit, all of the above sounds good. Agree initial conversations are the way to go. Good luck

Psychotherapy and CBT are very different so I agree it's worth speaking to one who is trained in various approaches. Also, you don't have to commit to anyone. Speak to them first and go with your gut feel. I once went for someone that worked practically for me (location, availability) but it was totally the wrong solution.

Thank you ☺️ I emailed one last night who I think looks a good fit - I should probably ring though!

Hi, I know you've already emailed someone, but if you are interested in CBT please check the BABCP website to check if the therapist is accredited. You can also 'find a therapist' on there. Lots of people say they do CBT when it's really CBT informed therapy, which isn't the same (although you might find it helpful). Hope you find someone you can work with

Mine was recommended to me by another acquaintance who is also counsellor. Recommendations are great, but it's such a personal thing that even recommendations aren't always the ticket. I was very lucky to find the right one for me first try!