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Very concerned about friend

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Studentnursesos12e · 06/04/2019 19:35

Hi,

My friend (who’s also my flat mate - since sept) is concerning me. I’m not 100% sure what’s up but she’s going out the flat a lot less, has been missing uni, has got very very snippy (especially at me - we have 4 of us in flat in total). When drunk (once) she was very very upset but apart from that is very closed and doesn’t open up. I have a lot of health probs as well as anxiety, and my other flatmate has BPD and anxiety so we talk about MH and feelings quite a lot. But she doesn’t like to talk about it (which is fine obviously). A few months ago she went on a few dates which kind of fell through and was down over it but she’s definitely got more down since.

I have tried talking to her about it but she brushes it off, and I don’t want to force it. But I don’t know what to do.

She is close with her family, but doesn’t talk about MH to them. Other than us, she doesn’t really have many other friends, apart from two who are awful to her.

I don’t really know what to do but every time I speak to her she is snippier so I think it isn’t improving and me and her other friends are concerned.

Any ideas appreciated, we really care about her but are a bit lost cx

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PinkBlueStripes · 07/04/2019 12:23

Unless she wants to talk there isn't much you can do. You can let her know you are there for her if she wants to talk about what is going on. Encourage her to join a new club, gym etc. Go for a walk and sit on a bench-its often easier to have a heart to heart not face to face but side by side.

If she keeps missing a lot of uni I would probably think about trying to tell her parents - they would much rather know sooner than later.

Studentnursesos12e · 07/04/2019 15:59

Thanks for your reply x

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