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Crush that was harmless and fun now turning into obsession

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blackbunny · 05/04/2019 19:01

I’ve been taking Citalopram for years successfully and it’s kept my depression away. Last 2 weeks my depression’s come back. I saw GP today and he’s prescribed Ventaflaxine(?) he says sometimes ADs stop working. So fingers crossed it will kick in and start working.
What’s concerning me is that I’ve got a crush on someone I see regularly to do with an activity. Till my depression returned, this was a harmless fantasy which I doubt will go any further, and it was just something pleasant in my head.
Now I’m finding myself obsessing about him and daydreaming constantly, it’s hard to get these thoughts out of my head.
Is it the depression? Do you think when the new ADs start working, these obsessive thoughts will go, and it will go back to being a pleasant fantasy in my head?

OP posts:
blackbunny · 05/04/2019 19:16

Anyone any thoughts please?

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therearenogoodusernamesleft · 05/04/2019 19:18

It sounds like escapism from reality, perhaps? I'm more likely to daydream if my everyday life feels a bit grim. Try not to worry.

reenchantmentofeverydaylife · 07/04/2019 11:39

It's possible your new meds will help with that at some point, OP. In the meantime, Google the word limerence, if you haven't heard of it before. You might find reading about that helpful. And while you're waiting for the medication to kick in, check in with yourself frequently to gauge if you're planning on acting on any of your obsessive thoughts. Try to remind yourself that you're struggling with the line between fantasy and reality, and so it wouldn't be a good idea to do anything compulsive. And if at all possible, talk to someone you trust. My experience of this has revealed a lot to me about the need to question my judgment and trust myself not to do anything destructive. Big learning curve for me! Flowers

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