Really struggling right now, don't know how I feel, can I ask you all a question, if your daughter told you that her father (your husband) had raped her 3 times when she was 20 years old ( so 31 years ago) but you then find out your husband was spending £100s on prostitutes a week which one would you be more upset about? Cos my father raped my sister my mother constantly an out 30 times a day says about money and prostitutes, my mental health is suffering badly cos you see my father sexually abused me when I was 15 but my mother held me while he stuck his tongue down my throat! Fast forward 34 years, my mother is playing the victim!! Sick of the pity party!! She's just text me admitting to beating me up at 18!! I feel lost I feel empty only thing that's stopping me harming myself is my son!! Am I wrong in feeling betrayed by this woman?