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Anxiety triggers

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Cravingseaside · 09/03/2019 18:13

I suffer a bit with anxiety. Probably not too much more than your average person but certain things trigger it.

My ex partner (daughters dad) is one. I want to move house, maybe 5 miles away. For some reason, I have butterflies at the thought of telling him. I don't even think he will say anything but I just have this feeling of doom that he will send nasty messages about it. It must be a throw back from when I was with him even though we split up 10 years ago! I just wish I didn't have to have anything to do with him.

Another thing is my partners ex/my stepdaughter. I have posted before about the situation being awkward- she causes a lot of trouble. For example we had dsd today and I can't relax. She complains about everything so anything we do I have to second guess her reaction/think will it cause trouble? Simple things like if we say no to stepdaughter over something/take her on a walk when she thinks it is cold (she is well wrapped up) , she will message and cause a scene over it. She loves tormenting and speaking down to my partner. She was abusive when they were together and still acts it now ( no violence from her anymore at least!)

We do handle that by not engaging with her when she is just out to argue. But it is still upsetting.

I seem to have an issue with messages!Confused I think it is because I can feel relaxed at home then the phone beeps with a msg from her/him and all peace is shattered and my anxiety/stress is through the roof.

Anyway, not sure why I posted. Sometimes just getting it out makes me feel a bit better!

OP posts:
MLMsuperfan · 09/03/2019 22:09

You don't have to take every message straight away. Find a way to read the messages that is less triggering.

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