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Citolapram - real life invasion of the body snatchers?

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Moaj · 05/03/2019 07:21

My partner and i have been married for many years, we have had our ups and downs, but our kids meant the world to us, we were literally besotted with them. Over a year ago my partner started taking citolapram, which they believed helped them no end....

However, i have watched my partner go from a person to a shell of a person. They behave like a person, smile, laugh, play with the kids but its like a blanket of mist has been placed around their view of whats normal and acceptable behaviour. Right and wrong has blurred into one, if i could liken it to anything, i would say go watch the movie ‘invasion of the body snatchers’, it really is as close as youll get to understanding what the journey ahead may look like. My partner no longer resembles my partner, i dont mean in looks, i mean mentally & emotionally, which ultimately is what we love, looks fade but who and what we are doesnt.

Two years ago, we would both have rather died than put our kids through separation, but now my partner is driving us through this process and is absolutely fine with it, watching our daughter cry when we argue and they literally blink the image away in a split second and move on like its no big deal. If citolapram makes you ok to watch your child cry their eyes out and gives you the ability to swiftly move on, then in my view it is a terrible thing. If you can even remotely contemplate thrusting separation on young kids before exhausting every possible avenue to avoid hurting them, then imo this tablet, or type of tablet is straight from hell.

I understand some people need medication and i agree with that. But i have young children who are now looking at me and asking how i could be part of devastating their little safety bubble of a world, and im not, citolapram is doing this and their is nothing i can do to save them.

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IamTheMeg · 05/03/2019 14:48

It's sounds to me like citalipram has given your wife an awakening.

Moaj · 05/03/2019 15:47

Its incredible that you are able to quantify two peoples 15 year marriage, and even more remarkable that you dont know either of us.

Just wondering if you also read leaves and gaze longingly into crystal balls in your spare time?

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StormTreader · 05/03/2019 16:05

Do you think your immediately condescending and rude attitude may have any relevance to your current situation at all?

IamTheMeg · 05/03/2019 16:08

Its incredible that you are able to quantify two peoples 15 year marriage, and even more remarkable that you dont know either of us

That is slightly ironic.

Moaj · 05/03/2019 16:48

Unfortunately not when faced with people who can make such a sweeping analysis of my 15 year marriage, not to mention my childrens worlds being smashed apart, based on 5 minutes of reading....

I tend to take things like that personal.

Maybe you need to look inward rather than outward

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Didiusfalco · 05/03/2019 16:57

I’m glad you posted this. I’ve just had a check of what my dh is on and it’s citralopram. My experience is not as extreme as yours but while it has made him much more able to do his job I truly think it has impacted on his ability to be empathetic and made him respond more robotically with regards to feelings. That may not be a popular view, but I actually think he would agree with me and I know he is wondering whether a lower dose might be a better balance for him.

Moaj · 05/03/2019 17:31

Thank you for replying to my post, and its good to hear im not alone with this, obviously the circumstances arent great for either of us. Hopefully some good comes of the post.

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