Daughter struggling...high anxiety...now left college

[GaynorGoodwin]

Help...I’m struggling with my 19 year old daughter. She decided to end her college course before Christmas as it was causing her high anxiety. We agreed she should look for an apprenticeship and go for counselling alongside it. The counselling started last week (Emdr) but getting her out of bed for anything else is hard. She’s found a part time job (few shifts every couple of weeks) but how do I know she’s just not lazy?
She’s my daughter, I love her but worry the less time she’s done no anything the worse she’ll feel. AIBU? Please anyone......if at the end of my tether with worry myself...

Sorry to hear your daughter's been struggling. You say she started therapy last week.. so it's REALLY early days to see if it's helped. Maybe she just needs some time to get back to herself. Is this the first time she's suffered from anxiety? Do you know what she pas particularly anxious about? Hopefully the therapy will help. Maybe she will be able to talk through her feelings and start to feel better. It'll take time.
Don't jump to any conclusions re being lazy. She may feel slightly depressed and finding it hard to get out of bed. And the part time job, though infrequent, may be all she can handle for now.
It's really hard being a parent and watching your child suffer anxiety. But it seems like you just being there and the fact that you're worried, means you're an engaged parent and will be there for her. That's what she needs...

Thanks GoddessErrata. Your right it is early days I guess I’m just having trouble seeing her like this. I see others her age doing so well and I so much want to see her the same. It’s not the first time she’s suffered but this time she’s asked for help. Whilst she’s getting it, I feel hopeless as a mum.