Feeling low and lost

[rachs301]

I’m in my early 30s with a lovely husband and our first baby on the way. I know I’m very lucky but can’t seem to snap out of feeling low and a bit depressed. We moved back from a city to our hometown about 7 months ago and I miss our old life and my friends there. I have great family support but no friends here as we’ve lived away for so long. My husband works away during the week and I just feel like I spend every evening after work sleeping or wasting time on social media which is making me feel worse. I know I need to get some hobbies and meet new people - does anybody have any suggestions as to hobbies/groups I could join bearing in mind I’m 4.5 months pregnant. I want to enjoy this special time and be happy with my life so I know I need to snap out of this feeling low. I’m sure my husband is fed up of me moping also

Is NCT an option in a few months time? Joining a class like yoga where there are regulars who chat before hand? A book club? Art class? Cookery course? Suggest going for coffee after etc. Sorry you are feeling sad, period of adjusting is very normal. Anyone at all locally you could reconnect with? If nothing else plan to see/invite old friends until baby classes start?

I joined a birthing class at The Daisy Foundation (for just me, no partners) and although I had zero confidence to talk to anyone in the first term, I'm getting better at chatting now. It might be a good way to meet someone/people who are in similar position. I think you can search on their website for classes near you.

I moved, 18 months ago, to where my partner lives and although one of my closest friends lives not too far away we don't see each other that often due to things going on. I've not made any friends locally of my own so I really sympathise with how you are feeling as I feel the same too sometimes.

And as for spending time on social media, I know I need to not go on it as I feel awfully lonely/ugly afterwards. Hope you find something to join to meet people soon and feel a bit better.