I’ve had depression and anxiety for quite a while now and cope well most of the time, a lot of people wouldn’t guess, but I often go through periods where I am really struggling. I am quite open with my feelings and have told dh how it feels, what I’m feeling etc but he never really listens. I’ve had the usual bs ignorant responses from him such as “pull your self together”, “your just lazy” “you look ok” etc etc and have never felt supported by him. I’ve broken down a fair few times and really just needed a supportive arm around me telling me he’s there for me, but again nothing really.
Now his brother has recently opened up to him about how he’s feeling and told dh that he has depression. Dh wants to be there for him and support him so he doesn’t feel alone, totally get this it’s his brother and I wouldn’t wish mh issues and being alone on anyone. But.. aibu I’m feeling hurt/pee’d off/ upset/ let down, can’t describe how I’m feeling really, that he’s pretty much brushed my issues off and is now supporting his brother saying he’s “ill”, “needs support” etc and reading up on ways to help him through it when he’s pretty much brushed me off as just a pain in the a*$#.