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How do I get myself going again?

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Blankspace4 · 19/02/2019 10:21

A number of things haven’t been going right for me recently. Health (physical, but now beginning to think mental too), career (dead end, bullying boss), relationship (married but in a long term affair I’m wracked with guilt about). I found out I was infertile last year.

My sense of self worth is rock bottom and has got worse. I’ve been off sick from work for nearly a week and have barely left bed in that time, including the weekend. My DH knows I’m struggling but he has no idea to what level. He’ll leave the house for work and suggest I go into town and get a coffee to perk myself up but thought of engaging with the world fills me with dread.

I can hear birds singing outside and it makes me want to cry that I don’t even have the energy or inclination to pull back the curtains, let alone go outside and engage with the world.

I feel paralysed by inertia, at some point I’m going to need to get back up and out there and I don’t know how to give myself the momentum to do that.

Sorry for the post which isn’t particularly clear I’m sure. But any help appreciated.

OP posts:
noego · 21/02/2019 14:50

Is there anything that inspires you?
Music, film, book, art.........hobby?

Orangecake123 · 22/02/2019 09:51

I get it. I honestly do. When I'm that low. Everything else can wait. I take it minute by minute. It's impossible that I'm magically going to snap out of it. Everything is so much slower and twice as hard.

If you need to stay in bed, stay for now. I try to make myself extra comfortable- with a soft blanket.I listen to audiobooks and stupid youtube documentaries to spread the time. I can't cook and live of ready meals and chocolate milk but make sure that you're eating. You could try protein bars or shakes if it's easier.

I isolate an awful so won't meet up with anyone, Can you message family or friends to come around for a short visit?

Have you tried any therapy?

sparklefarts · 22/02/2019 09:54

Stopping the affair would deal with one thing

Etino · 22/02/2019 09:56

Open the curtains and go and brush your teeth. Run a bath. Stop the affair.

Etino · 22/02/2019 15:40

How are you getting on @Blankspace4? I’ve got a day off work to do chores, it’s like wading through treacle and I’m doing it in baby steps. Bath, dishwasher, tea, clean bathroom, wash in, crossword puzzle, empty dishwasher, nap etc.

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