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Handhold please partner depressed

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Mamababynumber2 · 29/01/2019 06:02

Hi everyone
My partner is off sick wirh anxiety amd depression. He is getting worse everyday.
He has started taking medication as of two days ago and is seeing a therapist.
I'm struggling as it's really upsetting seeing him like this.
He is only going to get full sick pay for one more monrh and then it's half pay for a.month. He is terrified abour this and we can't afford for him to.not earn his regular wage.

Any advice please?
I've been pushing him to see a therapist and engage w8rh the therapy. He's been twice. Also to go runninv
We have a newborn baby but the depr3ssion is seemingly a result of work stress.

Please any support or kind words appreciated as I'm finding it very distressing.

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Sunseed · 29/01/2019 06:13

My DH is going through very similar. Got a bit worse before the pills kicked in, and was very sceptical of going to a psychotherapist because he didn't see how just keeping on talking about stuff was actually going to get the work done that needed doing and he'd got behind with. He was convinced that the entire company was about to collapse because of him and nobody else could fix it.

Now he's been forced to take time off, step back, and funnily enough the world is still turning.

A new baby is hard work in itself but a great distraction. Is your partner interested in the baby?

Mamababynumber2 · 29/01/2019 08:34

I'm sorry to h3ar you are in th3 same boat. Yea he adores the new baby. He can't see at all how he can go back to work and it's heartbreaking to see but also very worrying as we can't afford for him to be off after this month. I'm on maternity leave and that pay ends in May and baby will only be 6 months.
He looks like a broken man.

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Sunseed · 29/01/2019 09:03

Are there parts of his job that he enjoys doing? Does he want to be able to go back to work, maybe a modified role if his employer will be flexible? Or does he actually want to leave and do something else instead.... Perhaps be a stay at home dad when your maternity leave ends?

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