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Really struggling with my own mind. Need help and someone to talk to please..

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Emfxx · 27/01/2019 03:08

Hello. Thanks so much if you are reading this.
It all started around year 8 (in high school) when my mum and dad broke up, when I was younger this was my biggest fear and it came true, I watched my mum and sister get abused by my own dad because he was an alcoholic. But he never touched me, so if course my (older) sister used to hate me for it, I can remember,my sister told me about death at a very young age, I would say around 6, she sort of used to torment me about it. Saying I would NEVER see mum again and I wouldn't have any of my teddies etc.. anyway, I started to have a lot of trouble at school, I was really misbehaving.. I was very aggressive all though high school. Such as chucking chairs at teachers and trying to hit anybody that looked at me in such way i did not like. I drank alot, smoked weed, etc.. I hung around with mostly boys and a few girls, but they were a lot older than me, and someone had rung in the school telling them this, so now social services was involved, and just to add in there, my mum is a very good mum and has never treating me or brought me up wrong.. Now fast forward to year 10, I start to hear weird noises now and again, i started to notice something wasn't right when I was walking home and every car that came past the sound what was supposed to be the engine/exhaust or whatever was actually the sound of people laughing at me and screaming my name, I always heard someone chasing me and no one was there.. And then I started to hallucinate.. I started to see dark mists in the corner of my room, I couldn't see no detail but darkness, and that must was the man i would hear, he would torment me every single night no matter where I was, he was there, he would tell me 'he can see me' in an almost child like voice. Tell me that people I loved was part of a plan, and that I needed to get out. There other voice was a little girl,and she would repeat names in my head such as useless, bitch and laugh at me.. And then there was another one.. It never spoke, just made noises,like some creature.. I had around 6 different counselors at school, but I don't think anybody took me seriously. They seemed to think it was due to the weed, and called it off as drug use psychosis. I got kicked out of 4 schools. And got denied by the rest of them. I felt alone. The only place that I could really get away from these in my head was to be around multiple people at once, and the schools turned there backs. Because let's be honest. No school knows how to deal with mental health and bad behavior. Anyway, I am now 18. Around 2 years since I heard any voices. But now I cannot stop thinking about death, and I tend to be very paranoid. If my mums goes out I am terrified in case she dies. I cannot leave the house because i feel like if I do someone is going to kill me or something is going to happen to somebody because I am not around, I can't leave the house because what if when I walk up that pathway in my front garden and look back at my loved ones that will be the last time that I see them, and it's all my fault because i left. I have nightmares every single night about something that terrifies me, for example finding my mum dead, somebody kidnapping me and killing me and leaving me in a ditch, watching my friends and boyfriend get killed right in front of me. It is so realistic, the feeling of terror, the blood on my face, the sweat dripping down of my eyebrow. I try to talk to my mum and boyfriend, but they seem to just say "it's just a dream" or "you need to tell your thoughts to go away". How can I stop my mind from doing what it is made for? Thoughts? Fear.. I am experiencing some serious insomnia,I haven't had a good night's sleep since I was a child...I feel like whoever they were in my head never really went. Just disguised themselves as thoughts and I am still controlled by them... I am scared to get turned away by the doctors, for being so stupid. Am I really experiencing mental health? Or am I being stupid? and just stupidly paranoid? What do you think the doctors will do??
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this.. I don't know if I can cope much more with no answers or nowhere to turn. Again, thank you💙

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Emfxx · 27/01/2019 03:15

Just to add, little things trigger me, such as bad weather, it tends to give me a sense of doom, as if it's the end of the world. Fireworks also set me off. And the sound of birds at night??? I don't understand, this what I wrote no one really knows, in such detail anyway, I feel like I keep everything a secret because it embarasses me. Thanks again guys!

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Swifey40 · 27/01/2019 03:20

I think the first thing you need to do is be kind to yourself, you (and your family) have been through massive trauma that has caused lasting effects. You can call The Samaritans anytime and they have trained professionals who will chat to you.
First thing Monday morning I think you should book yourself an emergency Dr appointment and either print off what you have written down here, or just take your phone in with you to the Dr. They will not laugh I promise. I think that your brain is very mixed up trying to process all of your trauma. Be safe and kind to yourself. You will get through this. Brew

Emfxx · 27/01/2019 03:27

Thank you so much for replying. I think I'm going through a bit of an episode because the weather's bad outside, and I'm getting that feeling. This sounds stupid.. But the doctors won't section somebody for talking about all these things will they? I don't want to explain everything and them to think i am not stable? Or get again that's probably me being paranoid again.. Thank you for talking to me😊

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Justagirlwholovesaboy · 27/01/2019 03:29

Do you have a helpline number?

ISmellBabies · 27/01/2019 03:29

Hi, definitely see the GP about this as soon as you can. It must be so hard to live with that level of anxiety. They can prescribe something to help. I agree it's a good idea to print off your post as you've said everything really clearly and sometimes it's hard to explain in person.

Emfxx · 27/01/2019 03:37

I don't have a helpline number but I have bad anxiety over talking over the phone.. God I sound like such a drama queen.. Thanks ismellbabies.. I've been really worried about going to the gp.. Do I just ring my doctors and say I want to talk about my mental health?? I don't really understand what I do. I will definitely take this to read out. I would just stutter and get my words mixed up. I also have dyslexia but felt like that didn't really need to be put in, thanks guys Flowers

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Sproutingcorm · 27/01/2019 03:39

Hi Emfxx I'm sorry you are going through such tough times!

I have absolutely no specialist knowledge in this area but just happened to read your post whilst having a cup of tea (believe it or not I am helping a neighbour with lambing but nothing much is happening ATM!) Oh and I have a 15 yr old DD.

First, I just wanted to say "don't worry". (Easier said than done I know!) Lots of people suffer from anxiety, even when they haven't undergone taumatic events in their childhood like you did, so please don't think of yourself as stupid or abnormal in any way!

Second, you need help and support. Your mum and boyfriend may be well intentioned but they are not mental health professionals and sometimes it's best to seek help from outside of the family! If you were dragging your leg around having broken it, they wouldn't hesitate taking you to a&e! Anxiety needs treatment too!

Therefore, the gp might be a good place to start. If you find it difficult to explain, just print out a copy of your opening post and show it to them. Or you might like to Google "Young Minds UK" who specialise in this area who will be able to offer you some help or point you in the right direction.

Wishing you all the very best. Don't suffer in silence! Make that appt next week! You sound really articulate and self- aware and there are people out there who can support you! Anxiety is the pits!

Sproutingcorm · 27/01/2019 03:45

Sorry, it took ages to post that (cold hands/ancient tablet) so crossed with loads of others.

Try not to worry about what the doctor will do! Again, I'm no expert, but I'm certain you won't be sectioned over something like this! They will probably offer you medication and counselling and point you in the direction of other support. Yes, just tell them you need an appt to talk about your mh! Good luck!

Emfxx · 27/01/2019 03:50

Hi sproutingcorm. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and reply, I feel like no one in the family has really suffered with mental health.. So they don't really know what there looking for or how to react. I am just worried the doctors will say nothing is wrong with me, or think I am mentally unstable. Hahaha. I really do smile when I see all of you replying and talking to me. Thank you so much!Grin

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Emfxx · 27/01/2019 03:51

Oh okay that's good then!! I hope they give me something just to clear my mind, even if it's just for five minutes and so I can get a decent sleep. Thank you so much!!

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Bettydaviseyes · 27/01/2019 03:54

Just to add, I too have telephone anxiety, you can email the Samaritans to [email protected] if you can't talk to them. They won't reply immediately like on the phone, but they will get back to you, I find usually within a day, and I've found it very helpful.
I agree about speaking to your gp as soon as possible, I'd book an emergency appointment, tell them you're desperate. I write everything down and just hand it over so that I don't forget anything.
Hope you can find some help this way 《《hugs》》

Sproutingcorm · 27/01/2019 03:55

No worries Smile

I hope you can get the support you need. It's a disgrace that you weren't offered proper help when you were at school and you have been dealing with this alone for so long. Mh services are stretched, so don't let yourself be fobbed off, and take someone with you for support if you need it. And remember, no one is judging you!

Emfxx · 27/01/2019 03:58

Bettydaviseyes thank you for that. I really appreciate it, I will make the appointment and see if my gran will come with, and I certainty will write everything down.

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Smotheroffive · 27/01/2019 03:59

I'm really sorry to hear how much you've been through. I think it's takes a lot of strength to post as you have, that's really in your favour, the strength and insight you show.

Do you have a good gp that you trust/know? That's the best place to start I think.

I know its very scarey for you, but unless you have a plan in place to kill yourself, or you plan on seeking some kind of revenge to harm others, you should be given earliest access to MH services in your community. Samaritans are a kind voice to hear and talk through your worries 116 123
24 hours and completely confidential.

They can also point to other services that could help.

Keep talking, as you say, you've not been able to do this before, maybe now you feel ready for change. I wish you good luck OP

Emfxx · 27/01/2019 04:00

Sproutingcorm just seen about you have an ancient tablet😂 me too lol! And i know, my first school kept me in isolation for 6 hours a day everyday for 9 months. I had to get escorted to the toilets by a teacher, probably made me worse !

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Emfxx · 27/01/2019 04:03

Smotheroffive. Thanks so much for reading and replying, I never wanted to talk to anyone about my feelings and my health, due to being sneeped and turned away from so many times in the past. I hope going to the gp really does help me. I have trust issues I guess when it comes to everything basically. I'm going to book one as soon as possible! Thanks guys Flowers

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Sproutingcorm · 27/01/2019 04:04

I sat on mine so it has a broken screen! 😂

Sounds crap re: school. They were trying to keep you safe (probably) but sounds really unhelpful/uncaring.

Emfxx · 27/01/2019 04:06

And another quick question guys, if I do get given medication by the gp. Will I have to pay, of course due to all this anxiety and everything i can't mentally bring my self to leave the house to work. I've tried to find some work from home jobs but there is nothing. Thanks!

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Emfxx · 27/01/2019 04:07

Sproutingcorm I lent my knee against mine and it's all smashed too!! And yes probably, it drive me insane! It was a tiny box room painted black with no windows and I had wooden boards up so I couldn't look around!!

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Sproutingcorm · 27/01/2019 04:15

No, I doubt you will have to pay. Explain to the doctor that your anxiety is so bad that you can't leave the house currently, and cant work, I would imagine they will give you all the relevant forms to fill in.

Hope it works out ok for you. Hopefully gp will be sympathetic. But if by any chance you don't find the first doctor any good, don't give up, ask to see another one. It's a cliche, but you have your whole life ahead of you, so you need to get this sorted so you can get to the point where you can enjoy it! There is help out there but you have to fight for it a bit xx

Emfxx · 27/01/2019 04:18

Thanks so much! Really appreciate it. Hope I can get sleep.. It's 4:20am and I'm not tired again. Ugh!!

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Sproutingcorm · 27/01/2019 04:20

I can literally count sheep from where I'm sitting so sending some over to you 🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑🐑

G'night x

Emfxx · 27/01/2019 04:28

Thanks so much. Goodnight!

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Smotheroffive · 27/01/2019 16:07

Sending you wishes of great hope for today, and your new future getting things sorted with gp. Hope you managed some sleep. Hopefully Tue gp will be able to get some referrals for extra support for you and for some talking therapy, as well as meds. That would all be on the NHS. Choosing the right gp who has a good listening, supportive, and understanding ear is what you need to help you make some really good change in your life. Flowers

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