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Regrets

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Mumwithregrets · 23/01/2019 21:28

Never posted here before. Feel the need to talk but not enough for Samaritans or Crisis etc (bit like phoning for an ambulance - you just don’t do it unless you’re dying). I’m a mum diagnosed with depression about a year ago. This is the second time in my life it got bad enough to admit my problem & am on ADs. They work to a point but it’s not all peachy perfect. Over the years, my temper’s & patience levels have been very frayed & I overreacted to every little thing that went wrong. Problem is it seems that my relationship with my kids (teens), one in particular is now in tatters. He just mimics my unreasonableness, mocks my attempts to help him with problems & wont listen to my advice anymore. He just sees me as the grumpy unreasonable parent. I think my behaviour, as a result of (untreated) mental illness has permanently damaged our bond. Now I’m sad & lonely, feeling unable to fix it. Just when it looks like we are improving, something happens & it breaks all over again. Now it’s an important exam year & things are getting too much.

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Mumwithregrets · 23/01/2019 21:30

I regret not seeking treatment (years) earlier & perhaps I wouldn’t be in this pickle.

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noego · 23/01/2019 22:18

You do not need to be at the stage of "I need an ambulance" to talk to Samaritans.
Do it now 116123

Bumblebee39 · 23/01/2019 22:22

I know what you mean @Mumwithregrets

My biggest regret is that I'm so scared of losing my kids (my biggest fear) that I forget to enjoy them

Mumwithregrets · 23/01/2019 22:33

I enjoy one but not the other.
So wish I could turn back the clock & do it all over again & try to be calmer, more patient & admit my problems earlier. Another evening of verbal disagreement has left me feeling like I’ve had the stuffing kicked out.

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