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It's all falling apart

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Bloodyfucksake · 22/01/2019 04:37

I need advice.
I'm falling apart.
It all started when my husband's other woman got in touch with me. I had no idea. I have 3 children with him and I was working almost full time and looking after the children while he was working away.

I stayed relatively calm and started the whole "ducks in a row" process. The house is now ready to to go up for sale. It's been a horrible process.

My children are a mess. One even having panic attacks.

My children and I will have to return to the UK (we are living in Europe). I am terrified of taking my children from the only home they know to a Brexit Britain even I don't understand. But I cant afford to raise my children alone here. I need the help and support of my family. And they are all in the UK.

My job has been really tricky for a while with some colleagues being very difficult. I've just cracked on our work night out and been downright rude to them. I was actually a bit crazy when I was ranting. Nonsense based on the truth if you understand. I am very very ashamed of my actions. When I went to apologise, I was met with such anger I couldn't and had to just walk away, so now I'm hated at work too.

Most of my colleagues know what has gone in my home life, and have enjoyed gossiping. No offer of help or support though.

Home is unbearable. Work is unbearable. I can't sleep at night. I'm about to crack.

And the husband has lost his job. The money is about to run out. We have maybe one month left of 'enough'. I was hoping he would support us till we got to the UK and then I would have more choice of work.

What should I do?

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SleepWarrior · 22/01/2019 05:09

That sounds terrible, I'm so sorry.

I don't know what to suggest but didn't want to leave your post unanswered either.

Can you just come back sooner?

Flowers
Bloodyfucksake · 22/01/2019 05:13

Thanks Sleepwarrior yes I could just leave, but without selling this house I can't get another. And I should really organise a job for me and schools for the kids. There are jobs but they all want me to do a 6 week top up training course (that's fine but again I will need money so need to sell this house)

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Gina2012 · 22/01/2019 05:15

What time frame are you looking at? For moving?

Bloodyfucksake · 22/01/2019 05:31

Gina2012 I was hoping to move for the start of the new school year so the kids start at the beginning of the year. But I would now move the second this house sells.

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LadyFlangeWidget · 22/01/2019 05:50

Could have wtitten your post. Exact same situ.Move to uk get kids places in schools. Can you stay temporarily with close family? Claim benefits if you can. Sell house as soon as you can. Go to a solicitor start separation. Is that what you want? Him to leave? Kids health a priority. Sounds like shit situation but you will find strength you never know you had. If he is cheating..your marriage is over.

Sorry... Flowers

Bloodyfucksake · 22/01/2019 08:35

I'm at work Now, known as the nasty crazy lady. Which is true in their eyes. It's bloody hard though.

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Gina2012 · 18/02/2019 04:58

How are you doing @Bloodyfucksake

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