Lonelyness

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I’m really lonely I’m 18 and I don’t have any friends ,I have a child and my boyfriend that’s all I really talk to,I feel trapped depressed and anxious all the time I’m slowly breaking down completely. I don’t know what to do I can’t just walk into new social groups or clubs as I’m too anxious and I’m not the sort to just start talking to new people ,I go out to do activity’s at the park for my child other than that I’m at home doing nothing I have no meaning to life other than look after my child it really gets me down .as my toddler has been a bit feisty lately it also gets me down and a bit more angry and shouty which really is my worst fear as I hate this sort of behaviour around children ,I feel like I’m a breaking point I need help😢

all i can say really is medication helps a great deal.It helped accept my situation and helped me be better parent.But as for social groups no matter how much i tried i just never fit in.With meds i learnt that i cant depend on others for happiness all i can is try to make the most of it.Go camping travel explore find things to do by myself or with family.At least that way i found happiness even though i dont have friends

Thank you for the input it helps! I’m on streamline at the moment but it doesn’t seem to work really but yes im at that point now I do find happiness in doing things one on one with my child it’s just sometimes being able to have a proper conversation with someone the same age really helps but I can’t ever have that and I generally don’t fit in to anything else really but what meds are you on sorry for the personal question ( also sorry if this message sends directly to you this is my first time using this really )

Hi,
Firstly if you don’t think the meds are working please go back to your GP and tell them. You do have to give them a good few weeks to start working . I’m on Sertraline 100mg and mine have started to have an effect now. I started on 50mg but that dose was too low for me sonits now been upped . I’ve been on the new dose for a month now.
You’ll find it hard because of your age. Most women your age don’t have a toddler so even going to mums and toddlers you’ll not likely find many mums your age. But you will find other mums that will only be a few years older. Kids are great for starting conversations about . I’m sure you’ll be welcome with open arms. Could you find some child care so you could volunteer in a charity shop or some other volunteering? You’ll meet new people of all different ages and backgrounds that way .
I find making friends hard. I quite often o find I don’t fit in. It’s hard I know. Keep trying.

I’m on sertraline aswell but the 50mg as my age I think my doc said only other option would be therapy or something but yes going to clubs and seeing older mums make me very nervous and on edge although they may be welcoming just some looks they give don’t seem so.i have had jobs but I couldn’t stay long due to the anxiety and depression so I never had chance to get to know anyone and thank you

i am 29 and i still have not made friends i tried for years baby groups,school runs i done it.When you have anxiety its near impossible.I am on citrolapram it may work for me but different meds for different people .

First step is trying to find meds that work some of my first meds were awful cloudy headed couldn't think strait

Please go to it doctors and say the meds aren't working, they can either up the dose, change or add something in aswell.
I know it's super hard when u get urselfnin that little hole, trust me I've been there, but I slowly managed to get myself out of it by talking to my doctors and I started doing more things for my kids, like toddler groups, clubs etc because it's for them u feel like u have to do it even if u don't want to, oh it's hard I won't lie to u on that one but the kids get out to burn energy and 9/10times u meet a mum in a similar situation and it's a great place to get some of the annoying mumsy problems off ur chest too, which in turn can help u. Once u realise u r not alone it doesn't seem to bad anymore xx

Thank you so much it’s good to know other people feel the same too and I will deff get a appointment and talk more about my loneliness.the feeling of being judged is just so scary I know it sounds silly but knowing I’m going to be judged or looked down on is so scary but I know for my son I need to do more out and about wise .thank you X