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What can you remember from your childhood?

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WFTisgoingoninmyhead · 16/01/2019 11:02

I have just started to see therapist to deal with some issues I am having that date back many years. I am 51 now and only just got round to sorting this shit out. She said that next week she wants to talk about my childhood and I am struggling to remember stuff to be honest. I can't ever remember my mum sitting me on her knee or cuddling me. I can't remember exactly where I was born, I don't think I have even asked my parents these questions before. I don't know my Grandparents names. I can remember big things that happened like when we emigrated when I was 5 but nothing else really. How much should a person remember and will she think it odd that I don't know stuff like my Grandparents names and significant events in my life. My vivid memories all date from the time the trauma I am seeing her for started, is this normal, I was about 11 and I remember everything from then on. She thinks I am showing Attachment Disorder(?) symptoms. Not actually sure what this is as it looks like it is a thing young children get.

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Lucylugs · 16/01/2019 11:06

I have friends who had a rough time when they were young and have very few memories. One friend only started to regain memories when they went to therapy to deal with anxiety.

Slowcookervegan · 16/01/2019 11:58

Unfortunately i remember everything Angry

Stardustinmyeyes · 16/01/2019 12:07

I don't think a therapist will think it odd if you don't remember certain stuff. She is there to help you not judge you or think that you are strange for not remembering certain things. It's quite natural that the trauma that happened to you has blocked previous memories.As pp said some memories may come back. It's not a test so please try not to put yourself under any pressure.
I hope it goes well for you and you are helped

Bumblebee39 · 16/01/2019 12:11

They are looking for your significant memories, so things like emigrating are spot on. You may find once you've talked about that other things will come back.

They will not be expecting you to remember everything, the important thing is that you are talking about any significant memories

Aprilshowersarecomingsoon · 16/01/2019 12:12

Anything regarding my dm comes out as a negative memory. We are nc now so memories haven't lied. Dgm was a positive influence and I have nicer memories of her and things we did together.
Adulthood relationships have left me likely needing therapy if I had the time. I have long accepted my childhood wasn't great.

Aridane · 16/01/2019 12:25

I struggle to remember much (and am glad it is that way)

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